Hi all

Long story short, my male housemate doesn't know about my surgery and I don't really want to tell him. But all I can think is that surely he will notice? I used to eat large quantities of food and now I eat out of the smallest bowl in the world. He also often cooks us dinner out of the blue & I don't know what I'll do if that happens.

The reason I don't want to tell him is because a) he's super skinny and I don't think he'll understand and his girlfriend is also a close friend of ours and I'm sure he'll tell her and it will end up going around our whole group.

I'm really struggling with this. Should I just tell him?

Advice?

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I think I will hold off telling him for as long as I can. I hate lying but I'd rather lie than have everyone find out.

Now that you're clear on exactly how you want to handle this, I'm sure you feel calmer. Just one more, this time unsolicited, suggestion. If you go beyond simple omission, keep the lie(s) minimal so that you have to remember less.

All the best to you.

Tell him the truth, that you're on a doctor managed weight loss program. That's what I tell people, and they accept it for what it is. I tell them I'm keeping calories to under 1k per day, and I use the vitamins, protein drinks, and bars for the nutrition benefits. All people want is a reasonable explanation they can believe.