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Hello Everyone,

I had my surgery 5 days ago. And it's honestly been super tough. My surgery was Monday, and I stayed in the hospital until Thursday. ( no surgical complications, gas wouldn't pass, and throwing up the whole time). Now I am home, and it's tough. My mind still thinks that I am hungry and I know that I am not. It's really difficult trying to transition from eating all the time, to not being hungry at all. I feel that I am starting to become a tad bit depressed. My family doesn't seem to grasp the whole situation and fail to realize that I am alone on this journey. I feel like I've mad a complete mistake with this surgery, but I know it's just my mind overthinking. I'm very happy I've made this choice. Maybe it's me thinking that I'll never be the same again? Which I know that is true, but the same as being the same bubbly personality. It's really a though journey and I honestly didn't think it would be this TOUGH!!! I should've prepared myself mentally for this, I only focused on the physical parts and now I am struggling. I know the outcome will be worth it, but at the moment, I feel I've made a mistake- How do you cheer yourself up from feeling so down? When will it all get better?

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Hello Everyone,

I had my surgery 5 days ago. And it's honestly been super tough. My surgery was Monday, and I stayed in the hospital until Thursday. ( no surgical complications, gas wouldn't pass, and throwing up the whole time). Now I am home, and it's tough. My mind still thinks that I am hungry and I know that I am not. It's really difficult trying to transition from eating all the time, to not being hungry at all. I feel that I am starting to become a tad bit depressed. My family doesn't seem to grasp the whole situation and fail to realize that I am alone on this journey. I feel like I've mad a complete mistake with this surgery, but I know it's just my mind overthinking. I'm very happy I've made this choice. Maybe it's me thinking that I'll never be the same again? Which I know that is true, but the same as being the same bubbly personality. It's really a though journey and I honestly didn't think it would be this TOUGH!!! I should've prepared myself mentally for this, I only focused on the physical parts and now I am struggling. I know the outcome will be worth it, but at the moment, I feel I've made a mistake- How do you cheer yourself up from feeling so down? When will it all get better?

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Hi there,

I had my gastric bypass this past Wednesday. If you need someone to talk to, I am here. Things will get better.

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I think everyone goes through the 'regret phase'. I'm three weeks post op. It definitely gets better. I was also super nauseous and vomited a ton. It finally eased up. I'm finding what I can and can't tolerate.

Fighting the "mental hunger" is very hard. It also does start to get better. Hang in there. I'm happy to chat with you. We could exchange numbers or friend each other on fb or something. You're not alone!

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So sorry you are having a difficult first few days. You are definitely not alone, as you can see from the other folks who have chimed in. The first stage is tough--it's a huge transition; you're recovering from surgery; you're struggling to figure out how the heck you're going to get in all that Water and Protein. And, on top of it, your brain doesn't understand why you're not eating all the stuff you have in the past ("head hunger").

BUT each day is going to get better! I promise. You're going to get into a groove. A couple of weeks from now, you will look back and see how far you've come, and two weeks after that, you'll see you've gotten even further--and so on and so forth.

At about three days post-op, I had that "Oh God, what did I do" moment, and now at 10 weeks out, I would do it all over again in a heartbeat! Best decision I could have made!

You will feel this way, too, soon enough! You have a lot to look forward to! Just ride the wave! ❤️

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I'm 3 days post op haven't had the nausea but I FEEL LIKE IM STARVING! I'm doing ok getting my Protein in but I've been crying a lot maybe a little self pity but I'm just praying it gets a little better each day. The end prize will be worth it and it also really helps me when I look at before & after posts. Since we are beginning this journey together I would love to be friends on Facebook or exchange phone numbers & support each other I've not really got anyone to talk to about my journey. I'm 49 sw 280 cw 26?

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Hello Everyone,

I had my surgery 5 days ago. And it's honestly been super tough. My surgery was Monday, and I stayed in the hospital until Thursday. ( no surgical complications, gas wouldn't pass, and throwing up the whole time). Now I am home, and it's tough. My mind still thinks that I am hungry and I know that I am not. It's really difficult trying to transition from eating all the time, to not being hungry at all. I feel that I am starting to become a tad bit depressed. My family doesn't seem to grasp the whole situation and fail to realize that I am alone on this journey. I feel like I've mad a complete mistake with this surgery, but I know it's just my mind overthinking. I'm very happy I've made this choice. Maybe it's me thinking that I'll never be the same again? Which I know that is true, but the same as being the same bubbly personality. It's really a though journey and I honestly didn't think it would be this TOUGH!!! I should've prepared myself mentally for this, I only focused on the physical parts and now I am struggling. I know the outcome will be worth it, but at the moment, I feel I've made a mistake- How do you cheer yourself up from feeling so down? When will it all get better?

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It can definitely be tough. Head hunger is real and can be hard to work through. Just keep sipping on your Water and Protein shakes and try to rest to let your body heal. It takes a huge toll on your body and emotions. I have been more easily irritated and emotional since surgery a few weeks ago.

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Hang in there. I'm about 5 weeks out. I ran the whole gamut of emotions for pretty much the first 2.5 weeks. From excited to pissed off to upset to questioning everything. This first part can suck. Just go day by day. Get in a routine on when to eat and drink. If you aren't up to your plans protein/ Water guidelines, keep adding to your routine slow and steady. You will get to better days.

On lifting your spirits? Do something special for your self, get a manicure or pedicure, buy a new pair of shoes sit in the sun shine take a walk, color in a book, mediation get you hair cut, massage ( professional or by your SO) soak in a tub if you are allowed. Pick some flowers or buy a bouquet of flowers, take a drive. Play some slots, take some citrus type fruit , cinnamon and slow cooker it on the stove to make the house smell good. Citrus can be up lifting.

Just find an activity that you enjoy and do it even if you feel crappie. Get out of the house it can really change your mood.

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Just find an activity that you enjoy and do it even if you feel crappie.

I love the way you spelled "crappie" --it looks so damn perky :)

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Thank You Everyone, I really

Appreciate these words so much!!!! I guess this is just the biggest change that has happen to me in my 22 years of living.

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I had my surgery Monday also I had a quick recovery minus the gas trapped in my shoulder major pain. My hardest part so far is wondering if pain in full or recovery still. Are you able to get your Protein in.

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Honestly, I do not think I have been getting as much Protein I need in at all. Tomorrow I am buying the Carnation Breakfast shakes and I'm going to give those a try.

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Get core power elite 42 grams and the light I have crunch 26

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That sounds fantastic!!! I will definitely look into that. Thank you for your advice!

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      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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