Wow - Okay well I'm new to this forum, not really sure what I'm doing. I am 38 yrs old, and have 7 1/2 weeks until I am banded. I have read everything I can find on Lap Band surgery, and feel prepared medically............ but mentally - I am scared!! I am scared that if I put myself and my family through all of this, and it doesn't work - what then??? I am 114kgs (sorry not good with pounds - I'm Aussie) and am not very tall at 5ft 4....... putting my BMI at 45. I have waited 10 months for my insurance period to expire, so I can get this done, I have tried every other weightloss plan/diet known to man, and I have researched every detail............... why then do I feel like screaming or crying half the time, and excited the rest...................I feel lonely, and scared! I can't see myself losing the weight, and changing my life like so many of you have....... it does not seem real.

I don't have many close friends I can talk with, and the ones I do have don't understand.................. I'm hoping for support and motivation from this forum, and I look forward to getting to know you all - Cheers Karen

thanx Jane - I can't beleive you actually have deer and groundhogs in your back yard - I thought that only happened to Chevy Chase!! lol... I do have a treadmill and a bike - both are great for folding laundry and collecting dust - I will try harder soon, I promise!! I understand why you have no passion for exercise after work, I have 3 muchkins of my own, my hubby works away, and I am a daycare Mum for 4 other ones, while mine are at school..............after work, I could care less..... talk soon, karen

Hey Karen,

Thanks for replying to my questions. I've read your thread waiting2b banded, and some of the things you were saying about having friends, but not really anyone you could talk to, sounds so familiar. They don't understand the feelings and emotions we are going through in this stage while waiting to be banded. My husband loves me to death and has always been there for me, and has never, never said anything to me about losing weight, he loves me for me. Something my family all my life has failed to do, even myself, I suppose I have failed myself to just accept me for me. Well he's even sick of hearing anything to do with the banding, maybe you understand the need and the excitment to know as much as I can, and to read and see as many success stories as I can. I'm kinda in a bad space at the moment, I'm scared about how successful I will be, if I see all the photos of people before and after enough maybe it'll convince me enough that, that will be me one day. Because like you said it seems so sureal.

Penny

Karen,

Welcome

Karen,

Welcome to LBT(lap band talk) this is a great place for you to be...and don't worry...all the feelings you are having are normal...you will be fine..and don't think you won't lose the weight, you will...just follow the rules....do exactly what you are supposed to do and you will lose.....good luck...and congratulations on your surgery date....I LOVE MY BAND....IT HAS BEEN WONDERFUL FOR ME...

Hi, Karen. I hear everything ur saying. I couldn't have said it better, but I feel the same way. I'm 39. Scheduled 2b banded on October 11. Scared as !@#%, but ready to get this weight issue behind me once and for all.

So, you're not alone. Here we go. Shante'

P.S. I'm in Atlanta, Georgia.

Thanxs to everyone who has read my thread and replied - you are all not only helping me, but lots of others reading these posts as well.........give yourselves a big hug from me!! I would love to keep chatting with everyone............so tell me a bit more about yourself, where you live, are you banded, family, work, pets, shoe size........lol!!! hugs Karen

Brispenny, Oct 9th will come around fast luvie, when do you start pre-op diet? have you read the books I have recommended? there are also some great articles on the web by George Fielding (surgeon who is banded) and Robin McCoy. I would love to keep in touch...........hugs Karen

Hey Karen, it's Penny here. I start my optifast on the 25th Sept for 2 weeks. No I haven't read any books, I've totally been going on info from the web and from my mother in law, who was actually banded by Doctor George Fielding at the Wesley in Brisbane, but as far as I am aware he is in New York working at this point in time. MIL has been a great help and source of encouragment. Where abouts are you and could we maybe exchange email addresses.

Hugs Penny

lucky duck - I have 4 weeks of optifast (or other which doesn't make me hurl)............... sure happy to exchange email addresses, not sure how to do it privately though....will try. I am actually in Bundaberg - are you Northside or Southside girl?

Hi Everyone, I'm new to the forum and found it by complete accident.

I hopefully get my band in 4 weeks time and feel heaps better now that I know that I'm not losing my mind with wanting to read everything on the net that I can find. I'm really really nervous but it's great to know that it everyone feels like this too.

Wow - Okay well I'm new to this forum, not really sure what I'm doing. I am 38 yrs old, and have 7 1/2 weeks until I am banded. I have read everything I can find on Lap Band surgery, and feel prepared medically............ but mentally - I am scared!! I am scared that if I put myself and my family through all of this, and it doesn't work - what then??? I am 114kgs (sorry not good with pounds - I'm Aussie) and am not very tall at 5ft 4....... putting my BMI at 45. I have waited 10 months for my insurance period to expire, so I can get this done, I have tried every other weightloss plan/diet known to man, and I have researched every detail............... why then do I feel like screaming or crying half the time, and excited the rest...................I feel lonely, and scared! I can't see myself losing the weight, and changing my life like so many of you have....... it does not seem real.

I don't have many close friends I can talk with, and the ones I do have don't understand.................. I'm hoping for support and motivation from this forum, and I look forward to getting to know you all - Cheers Karen

Hi Karen,

Im exactly in ur shoes, i know exactly how u feel. I feel like crying at times but then i get excited that im very close to getting the band, im 5 ft 2 and at 113kg.

where abouts in australia are u? im in Melbourne!

i get my surgery date on October 4th.........

ever need to chat email me at ginanikodemou@optusnet.com.au

hey Ginaki, I am in Bundaberg,Queensland. Visited Melbourne last Xmas - must admit, you guys have weird traffic rules! I am only a smidge taller than you, and a kilo heavier, so I'd say we are nearly twins!!! I would love to chat sometime, but I need to take my middle princess back up to bed now, she has been lying on the floor in my office while I mucked around on the puta.............. catch up soon, Karen

When did you have your surgery? How was your experience? I eat very fast and cannot imagine myself eating slow. Did you have to give up any specific foods or really cut back. I hear horror stories about chicken and that is probably to only meat I really eat quite a few days a week. I am still thinking about my decision on to have it done or not. Sometimes I think yes I will other days I say no. Let me know. Thanks.

Hi D,Lew..... I have not been banded yet - 6 weeks to go, I am nervous and excited - they are completely normal emotions. I have researched lapband for 12 months - and what I can tell you is that banding is the most flexible, safest, adjustable and permanent weight loss method ever - however it is still just a tool, you will need to follow guidelines... I have pasted a really good link here: Lapband Lifestyle - We are here to help you in your changing life!

I have found the more I read and learn, the more confident I feel - good luck on your decision, and feel free to chat anytime..... hugs Karen

Wow, I miss a few days, and look how this thread has grown! :biggrin1: Thank you for thinking of me the day I had my gallbladder surgery. The surgery normally takes 45 min., but It took an hour and a half for me because of my weight. But, everything went well. I was really scared going into surgery. I had never had surgery before. In fact I was so scared that the doctor told my family I maybe too emotional to have the lap-band surgery. Having the first surgery took most of my fear of the second surgery away. I think the doctor is jumping to conclusions. He has no business making judgements after knowing me such a short time. He also told my famiily that my liver is still too enlarged to do the lap-band on the 18th of Sept. He said I need to lose more weight. This was not what I was expecting to hear minutes after coming out of surgery. I was thinking the doctor would be telling me how good I did and that my liver was looking great. After all I had been on the liquid diet for nearly two weeks. I was so close, and now I feel like I'm starting all over again. I would have got back to my computer sooner, but I've been feeling kinda sad. Also, I have a wound right under my rib cage that still kinda hurts. Sorry if I sound too depressing. I think I do have a good attitude. I will see my doctor Sept. 25. At that time he will tell me how much more weight I have to lose, and select another surgery date.