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People that not happy for you

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Helen123    4

Helen123
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Hi there I have a band and am converting (hopefully) to a sleeve. I only told a couple of people that I am going for a sleeve. I knew my sister's would not approve they were told after. Weight loss is an journey that does not stop. Ignorance well if all the diets worked everyone would not be overweight.

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OutsideMatchInside    10,166

OutsideMatchInside
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@@shaylady08

It doesn't have anything to do with surgery. I have an associate, downgraded from friend, that is really in their feelings over my weight loss. They don't even know I had surgery but they did have surgery, and weren't that successful and it is like my success is a slap in the face to them. And it is mainly that I have been able to achieve something they have not, and I am not even done or a success yet in my mind. They keep shading me over and over in every way possible.

Some people will never be happy for you and it has nothing to do with you, just with their own issues and insecurities.

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Steph~L~16    168

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I feel like I have lost my best friends after the surgery. Maybe someday they will be able to see past themselves and be 'friends' again, but for now I have learned who I can trust and although I'm not really secretive about my surgery, I don't share details at all. I know it is just their own insecurities that make them the way they are, but at first I took it personally.

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Nikkinee    94

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My best friend is not supportive either and constantly challenges me about the sleeve. She's even gone as far as saying she's unhappy because her eating habits will have to change when she's with me, even though I've told her she doesn't have to.

I know this has nothing to do with me and everything to do with her and her insecurities but it's still sad.

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Steph~L~16    168

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My best friend is not supportive either and constantly challenges me about the sleeve. She's even gone as far as saying she's unhappy because her eating habits will have to change when she's with me, even though I've told her she doesn't have to.

I know this has nothing to do with me and everything to do with her and her insecurities but it's still sad.

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I agree! It is very sad! It upsets me that my friends would have rather seen me in poor health and miserable! I guess sometimes even though I know it is a problem within them that I still take it a little personally! Those that truly love me and want the best for me see how my quality of life has changed and they are supportive, it's just sad that the people we thought were best friends couldn't be too!

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OutsideMatchInside    10,166

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When you change your life for the better, in any way (new job, new house, whatever), you find out who really loves you. That is one of the things that has made my life richer. Learning who really loves me.

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laceemouse    631

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STOP TELLING PEOPLE.

Problem solved.

This is my answer!

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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    • Alisa_S

      Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
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