It's 9 months after my surgery. I am down nearly 70 pounds, dropped from a size 20 and an XXL to an 8 and a M and I feel FANTASTIC! My confidence is up, my energy is through the roof and I now 'feel' thin (mentally and physically), even though I still have about 10 pounds to go until my ultimate goal. I'm even embarking on a new career path that I didn't have the confidence to pursue previously.

But, I'm losing friends. People who I've been friends with for YEARS suddenly don't have the time for me. They no longer invite me to parties, happy hours, birthday parties, etc yet they are happy to post where they've been and with whom on Facebook for me to find. They don't 'like' any of my social media posts anymore and none of it is weight loss centric (ok, so I made one comment about losing toe fat).

I talked to my therapist about it. Many of the people who have suddenly exited my life are over-weight. Not all, but some. She told me that they are likely jealous and have chosen shunning me as their way of shaming me for bettering myself. It hurts. Bad. And I'm not entirely sure what to do about it.

Has anyone else had this problem? Or did I just pick some really crummy people to be friends with?

Others, by the way, have been incredibly supportive, amazingly complimentary. I've even made some new friends! So, there are some great people in my life who are there for me; the true friends haven't done anything but support me and they've done so with zest.

Thanks for reading. I wish all of you the best on your beautiful weight loss journey.

These posts make me appreciate that my husband and I had this surgery three years ago and his request was that I not discuss our surgery. It makes life easier, and more pleasant. I am thankful it is not the focus of our relationships and life. We are all so different, and that makes us all unique!