Im trying to decide how to handle telling anyone about haveing surgery..I have told 3 of my best girlfriends and my DH. I cant decide whether to tell my parents/family.

Where I am having a problem w/ not telling is: what do you say when people notice youre loosing weight and ask how youre doing it? And what if they come right and ask if you had WLS?

My other problem is this. Im obviously leaning towards not telling but I feel guilty not telling my parents that I ham having surgery in general. They would never forgive me/dh if something happened to me and I didnt tell them...You know?

Advice please? I just dont want to tell because I know people will be watching/judging me, just waiting for me to fail..I dunno..I know several people who have had GBS and I totally pay attention to whether they have been loosing or gaining when I see them. I just dont want people doing that to me...:speechles

I didn't want to tell very many people after I had someone tell me that I was taking the easy way out.

I don't feel that living with the band is all that easy. Some days it's easy, but not always.

Plus, it's not like RNY where the weight just melts off . It's still just like being on a diet. Even with the band, I won't lose unless I eat right and exercise.

Hey, the first Western Barriatric person I have seen!! I am going through the process and hope to have surgery by October or November (insurance approval or not - I am worth it!) I hear Dr. Ganser is great, my surgeon is Dr. Sasse. At first I wasn't going to tell anyone but my immediate family but I have a big mouth and can't keep a secret! I am most afraid to tell my really heavy friends because they may be jealous or judgmental. I thought when I told people they would say oh you are not fat enough for weight loss surgery but nobody did. I guess I look fatter than I thought. I think you should probably tell your parents - assuming they aren not the controlling type. My mom was very sweet and said she will come stay with me after surgery. The rest of the world it really is none of their business! Good luck and I would love to here more from my fellow Renoite!

i told work (i was in a lead position and had to tell my boss i would be out for a week, she asked why, and i caved - she however blabbed it to too many - another story), DH, and some friends.

i had sugery in October and did end up telling my parents in December (after about 50 pounds left).

best of luck to ya!