Hello all,

I've been banded for 1.5 months and my dh and I are lucky enough to be able to utilize a personal trainer at the YMCA. I went to meet with the trainer who planned a "routine" for me (it's really cool..all done over the computer...) but I can't get myself to get there. I am embarrassed of the way I look and the way I know my body will move. I don't really have any workout clothing that fit (they are all too big :mad: ) and I just feel uncomfortable.

I know (in theory) that nobody will be looking at me...but I can't help but think that I will make everyone get ill by watching my fat stomach undulating while I walk on a treadmill.

Help me, please!

Rain

What about Curves? They have all women in a basicaly small group and everyone is a bit overweight. It is really great.

Personaly I go to the gym. I had a trainer for about 5 weeks and he was such an awsome guy I met all of his friends at the gym. So when I go all these hot guys say hi. major ego boost I know they are just being friendly but when other girls look at me trying to figure out why so many hot guys are talking to me it is so cool. I am at about 370 lbs so I know I am the biggest person in there lifting the smallest 3lb weights I know it looks funny but hell I feel better after working out.

That totaly sounds weird...I feel better after working out. but it is true. The sweat is really a great feeling.

You are letting other people control your destiny and you are making excuses.

When you decide to live your life for your self you will find that you don't care what other people think. When you stop making excuses you will be surprised at how much you can accomplish.

It's very liberating.

Easier said then done.

Easier said then done.

Yeah, I have to agree with you. Maybe one contributing reason we ARE fat is because of the self esteem issues. It doesn't go away quickly.

Easier said then done.

Yes and no.

Coming around to terms to do takes a bit of digging. Keeping on point and not caving once you chose to control you destiny can be tough.

But there is a point where it is like a switch. Off or on, yes or no, does this get me to my goal or get in the way of my goal...

It's hard for me to put it into words. We all have our paths.

Good luck.

I understand where you are coming from. One time at a well known gym, two muscle men actually made fun of me. I never went back to that gym. I now choose to go to a all women's gym. I would love to be able not to care what other think and say, but this is the real world, I care, and I am very over sensitive. It's who I am, but I'll never let them win. I will get to a normal weight, and be healthy no matter what!!