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1cutiejulie    72

1cutiejulie
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Has anyone lost someone to WLS? Before your surgery did u feel like u were gonna die? Is this a normal feeling? Should I actually say my good byes? 1 week to go

If u fail to plan, u plan to fail.

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Irelandlynne    19

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I just had my pre-op today as my surgery is scheduled on May 4th. The hospital where I am having my surgery gave me a sheet of paper with the statistics for death due to WLS and it is a very low percentage. There is always risk with any type of surgery but for me remaining morbidly obese seemed like the greater risk and also a death sentence. I think it's normal to be anxious and nervous but being in this group has helped me alleviate some of the negative feelings I was having about wls. I wish you the best of luck with your surgery and make sure you post with how you did.

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Lisa_85    118

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Yes!!! @@1cutiejulie! I backed out of my surgery twice!! I am 3 1/2 months post op an I am down 83 pounds. Best decision of my life this far. I was nervous wheeling down to surgery and once I stated that they put me right out an woke up in my room a couple of hours later.

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BullyMomma    10

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I was totally fine for mine, but my husband was sleeved a week later, and I was a mess. I didn't even sleep the night before his surgery.

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Talaria    50

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Totally normal. Being wheeled into the OR I was telling my husband what to do if I didn't make it...Honestly, my odds of living a longer, healthier life are much greater now than I had continued down the path of morbid obesity. You will be fine :-)

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VSGAnn2014    12,992

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No and no.

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1cutiejulie    72

1cutiejulie
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No and no.

I asked more than 2 questions. And I was looking for help not sarcasm. Seriously, If u can't relate than keep scrolling. Wtf was ur point in responding?

If u fail to plan, u plan to fail.

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UK Cathy    977

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I wrote letters to my husband and children telling them how much I loved them and my hopes and dreams for their futures. I told them to open them if anything happened to me. As I got on plane ( had surgery overseas and travelled by myself!) changed my mind and told them to open them when I was in the recovery room cos they deserved to know now much I love them and not when I've gone.

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Healthy_life2    8,330

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@@1cutiejulie

There are risks with every type of surgery.

Has anyone lost someone to WLS? yes

Before your surgery did u feel like u were gonna die? No

Is this a normal feeling? Yes, Fear is normal

Should I actually say my good byes? 1 week to go emoji17.png If you feel need to say good byes..Do it.

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crazygoose    190

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I never feared dying I mean sure there was the thought of that possibility but I never took it as a threat because I figured my time is just my time and if it wasn't going to happen one way at that date and time it would've happened another way but that's just my belief. I did however make calls to my loved ones and told them that I loved them just in case lol. When they put the anesthesia mask over me I still wasn't scared. Just like "Here we go off to the loser's bench!" I think you will be fine positive thinking helps.

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VSGAnn2014    12,992

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No and no.

I asked more than 2 questions. And I was looking for help not sarcasm. Seriously, If u can't relate than keep scrolling. Wtf was ur point in responding?

Uh ... I thought you were seriously asking if people had felt the same way you are. Didn't realize you were looking only for responses from those who felt the same as you.

What would you like help with?

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SueAE    6

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I'm really thinking of the same thing and freaking out. I mean should I sort out everything in case something happens? I haven't been able to sleep a full night since I found out my surgery date!

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1cutiejulie    72

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Even if I'm understanding what ur trying to say, I asked more than two questions. Therefore I wouldn't know which two questions u were answering anyways. I am feeling much better now so no advice or anything needed from u at this moment. I love this site! Thanks and have a pleasant day!

If u fail to plan, u plan to fail.

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1cutiejulie    72

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I'm really thinking of the same thing and freaking out. I mean should I sort out everything in case something happens? I haven't been able to sleep a full night since I found out my surgery date!

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When's ur date hun?

If u fail to plan, u plan to fail.

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    • Alisa_S

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. LeighaTR

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

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