I am a married adult with a college age daughter so why am I afraid to tell my mom that I am having Gastric Sleeve surgery next week (April 27^th)? I love her dearly but she can be overbearing and I know she will try to tell me what a mistake this is, why would I permanently change my body, can’t I just do this by eating less and exercising more? But I feel so guilty for not telling her and I don’t know how I could possibly keep it a secret going forward. She is the mother who handed me two Cookies, one for each hand, when I was crying as a child. She thinks that food fixes everything and it is a central part of any get-together. (Obviously part of my problem!) Mother’s day is coming and we usually go out and do something that ends with dinner. I will be drinking shakes at that time so that will be obvious. What to do, what to do?

I saw a letter on this site somewhere that the person said could be used as a template for others that laid it out pretty well as to why they were having the surgery etc. but for the life of me I can’t find it. Anybody know where I might find that?

Just let her know. About your surgery, But tell her you already made up your mind.

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Tell her that you are having the surgery, and that you are not asking for her opinion or approval, but that you love her and wanted her to know. Then ask her if she has any questions about the surgery and direct her to some really good websites or you tube videos where she can learn all about it. Tell her that you love her. Next.