I am a married adult with a college age daughter so why am I afraid to tell my mom that I am having Gastric Sleeve surgery next week (April 27th)? I love her dearly but she can be overbearing and I know she will try to tell me what a mistake this is, why would I permanently change my body, can’t I just do this by eating less and exercising more? But I feel so guilty for not telling her and I don’t know how I could possibly keep it a secret going forward. She is the mother who handed me two Cookies, one for each hand, when I was crying as a child. She thinks that food fixes everything and it is a central part of any get-together. (Obviously part of my problem!) Mother’s day is coming and we usually go out and do something that ends with dinner. I will be drinking shakes at that time so that will be obvious. What to do, what to do?
I saw a letter on this site somewhere that the person said could be used as a template for others that laid it out pretty well as to why they were having the surgery etc. but for the life of me I can’t find it. Anybody know where I might find that?