Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Recommended Posts

I just starting my journey and am watching Fit to Fat to Fit. It has been giving me such mixed feelings...why can't I just work out and lose weight? I know I will have to work out and eat right after surgery but why can't I do it now? The devil on my shoulder says I am taking the easy way. I KNOW surgery definitely not the easy way but why does society make me feel that way?!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I think for me before I had the surgery I just didn't really believe that I could do it....losing over a hundred pounds was too much to take in. The success of actually seeing results from my work gave me the assurance I needed to do it for the long term.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Speaking as someone who repeatedly lost 50-85# range and always regained plus more until I was into the 300s, maybe you can do it the"hard way" but I couldn't, and it wasn't for lack of effort. Give it an honest go. If you do decide to have WLS, I seriously doubt you will still consider it the"easy way out". For me, it was the only way out. I lost half my body weight and maintaining for a few years now...... thanks to the assist that the sleeve provides.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I was able to do it the "hard" way, and I went from 250-159. Then I got pregnant. Twice. Two kids in a row, and I got back up to 237. I didn't have the time with two little ones and a husband to think about my eating, and no time for exercise. I was really embarrassed that I lost all that weight, just to regain it all back. I was feeling truly depressed and I stopped doing things for myself. I knew something had to change. Could I lose weight again the "hard" way? Yes. But I had so much self doubt and experience with gaining it all back. I needed a permanent solution, not a fad diet.

I don't have money for a personal trainer, I don't have time for hours in the gym, like all the shows (biggest loser, fat to fit). They're an unrealistic way to lose weight for the rest of the population. I have to make the best decisions for myself, especially now that I've got so much more to live for (my family).

So, I made the decision that weight loss surgery was what I needed to get me back to the person I want to be. I want to be the beat and healthiest version of myself. Not crash diet until I get to a goal, then regain it. I had surgery 5 weeks ago, and I'm down to 201.6 (so close to under 200).

Society doesn't feel like this is the "right" way, well that's fine. That's why this is MY journey, MY life, MY decision. I have the knowledge that for my weight... This is the best and most effective way for me to lose, and keep off, my weight. I'm not sharing my choices with everyone, I'm not interested in their opinions. Again, it's MY life.

Edited by cookarue

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I felt that way in the beginning, but had to be honest with myself.....I've been trying on and off for years, losing some regaining more...all types of diet plans, diet dr's, and diet pills. Changed the way I ate but never fully successful. Tried gyms, personal training, Zumba etc...after my divorce, my discipline was pretty much shot, so in order for me to be successful I had to admit to myself that I needed help and this is my help. Some people don't agree with my decision , but I don't agree with their decisions on what they drink, or who they date or smoking cigarettes...but it's their life, their lungs, their heart....this is my life, my lungs, and my heart and no one's going go take care of me but me. So I no longer feel that way. I'm at peace with the decision and in 3 weeks I'll be moving forward to a new life

Sent from my SAMSUNG-SM-N900A using Tapatalk

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Thank you all for the encouragement! You all are so right. It is not a easy road like many think but it is the tool that will help me get where I want to go. This forum is like therapy! I know deep down what will help me and I have to forget what everyone else says and go with my gut????

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • KimBaxleyWilson

      Three months and four days ago... I was in Costa Rica having a life changing surgery! Yesterday we had a followup visit with Dr. Esmeral via video chat and this morning my middle number changed.  I'm down 47lbs and two pants sizes. I can wear a Large tshirt for the first time in like... 14 years! Woot!! Everything is going great. I have zero regrets. I went down to the riverwalk with a friend and walked 2 miles on Monday without even getting fatigued. And no more snoring or chugging pickle juice for crazy leg cramps! I need to go to the gym more... I'm making new shirts next week so that will motivate me. LOL But I'm also just not as TIRED all the time! I have a LONG way to go...but seeing the progress on the scales and in the mirror is a huge motivator!! Thank you all for cheering me on and supporting me!!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • bellaamey

      https://alluniqueguide.com/java-burn-coffee-reviews/
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×