I started this almost 2 years ago. Had surgery a year ago in November. As the weight came off the wounds of a crap marriage became exposed. I ended that crap marriage in July and today live on my own. I have my daughters half the week and now they get a much more at peace mom. I've dated a bit and it still shocks me anyone would/could find me attractive. My hope is that my ears will hear it enough for my brain to catch on. Today I went snowboarding for the first time in my life-to get my kids outside AND because I actually could do it.

These seem like random thoughts but honestly if this is a dream don't wake me. I feel like I'll be having the first Christmas in a long time as the Real Me. The genuine smiling on the outside and inside person I always wanted to be. I can't thank all the people in my life that supported me enough.

Congratulations! This is so great to hear. I wish you a very, Merry Christmas and an awesome New Year!

@@MountianGirl - that's a wonderful way to feel. I am so happy that you have found peace and comfort as the real you.

MERRY CHRISTMAS!!!

What a wonderful metamorphosis you're experiencing. I'm so happy for you!

Merry Christmas to you!

I'm facing the same situation as my marriage ended 2 months back...since then i blame myself for everything im depressed i dont go out meet people etc ...your story is inspiring and I hope I feel like that someday..Merry Christmas and a HNY

Good for you! In a similar boat. Happy to be free of the pain and starting my new life. Thanks for your post!

I'm having my surgery in Juarez with Dr. Rodriguez on December 29th. Freaked out a little but can't turn around now. Hope to be where you are in one year.

I had my psych evaluation last week with no issues and have been cleared. For me, this was just a formality to check that box. So we got talking about why the need for a psych eval. Besides the fact, the look to make sure the person is committed to the process and also doesn't have a food disorder, he was talking about how WLS changes people's lives so much and for many, many, MANY, their marriages fall apart.

I recall seeing a show recently, maybe a 60 minutes clip, on this woman whom her family wanted her to lose weight but she was deathly afraid because she didn't want her marriage to end and was so afraid if she lost the weight it would. But seeing many posts here about that happening.

I guess if you are not in a good marriage, it is bound to happen. But I'd say if it isn't good to begin with, its a good thing.