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So last night my husband and I were meeting a friend at a restaurant for dinner. As we were pulling up I said to my husband remember I prefer a table not a booth (I feel too tight in a booth still) and he says, well [friend's name] prefers booths. We go in and meet her and I politely said to her do you mind if we get a table not a booth, then she goes up to the hostess and says can we please have a booth for three. GRRRRR

I know it's minor but it really pissed me off

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I'd have sat at a table...

By myself if I had to...

But then I'm much less nice than the average person...

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Won't it be great when the day comes when you won't have to worry about where you sit anymore?

Keep that incident as a motivator!

And it's not minor at all. It's a big deal to those of us who struggle with obesity. We've all been there!

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When I was at my heaviest - I dreaded booths too. It is too bad your hubby and friend weren't just a little more considerate... but you will be so happy when you lose weight and don't have to worry about it anymore!

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The booths are less of an issue than they used to be but still can be tight depending on the place.

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So why do you call this person your friend? No friend of mine would ever do something like that to me.

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I don't like booths at all, even when I was at my thinnest. I am short and booths never give me the support or height I need to enjoy my meal.

I would have have asked her, "was it really necessary to ignore my request? I'll remember that for the next time."

People like that make the ugly in me come out.

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So why do you call this person your friend? No friend of mine would ever do something like that to me.

She's really my husband's friend not my friend....none of our other friends like her

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Wow!! I would be upset at my husband too. Also, that "friend" seems very disrespectful.

Sorry this happened to you.

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I don't like booths at all, even when I was at my thinnest. I am short and booths never give me the support or height I need to enjoy my meal.

I would have have asked her, "was it really necessary to ignore my request? I'll remember that for the next time."

People like that make the ugly in me come out.

yeah sh'e not the best person, my husband is friends with her and sometimes in order to spend time wiht my husband I have to put up with her tagging along.

at the restaurant she takes the wrapper off her straw and tosses the paper into my husband's glass of Water and thinks it's just the funniest thing ever.

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All that would really make me mad.

However, it won't be long at this will be a thing of the past. The clothes and fitting in anywhere are the two things I love the most about being a normal size! Sadly, that woman will still be a bitchh. ;)

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You ought to scope out restaurants that have tables only and insist on going there next time you "have" to go out with her.

Either that or spike her drink with exlax when she goes to the bathroom. Or "accidentally" knock her drink into her lap with your elbow when you slide into the booth. Or tell your husband to go pound sand next time he wants to invite her. Life's too short to spend it with assholes.

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So, next time she does that, ask for a chair and sit at the end of the booth. I bet she will think twice about ignoring your needs.

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@@Sophie74656

Are you kidding me? Your husband makes you sacrifice your comfort in order to spend time with him? F*ck that! I'd never. He'd never. We'd never.

They both sound pathetic.

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