So I've always been a big Boi and of course my teen years I struggled a lot with my self image. As I got older of course I've learned to love myself and had no problem in love. The surgery was not meant for vanity but for health. So I decided to be single in my pre-op fase but my question is this is for all my single sleevers. How has your love life been after the surgery especially the intimate part of it with like body image. Have you been accepted? Dating Is dating but me being a gay man I can say for sure in the gay community guys can be very vain and care about who walks with them on there arm and how they look. I know you ladies understand so how has the process been? I know my therapist told me that my options will be way bigger.

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I can't say things haven't been much different for me. I was always fairly popular and had lots of friends. That hasn't changed for me. I will say this, Now that my weight is notably different people comment more on how much I go to the gym. Since I go nearly daily my neighbors and friend have noticed and compliment on that.

I can't say things have been much different for me. I was always fairly popular and had lots of friends. That hasn't changed for me. I will say this, Now that my weight is notably different people comment more on how much I go to the gym. Since I go nearly daily my neighbors and friend have noticed and compliment on that.

Oh OK cool I'm waiting to join the gym like once I'm out of my second week me and my mom are joining. But question I mean the skin does that get to you if there is skin that might hang some. I have wings and just thinking god I hope they don't get bad bad. See as a big Boi there's hay men that like that just like straight men so that's why I never worried. But that's my fear.

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I'm definitely planning and research for plastics. Vacations are a big part of dating for me, and I want to look good at the beach.

You are a guy to toning up should be easier, but if you have loose skin, and you are dating the gay community,I would plan on plastics to fix it.

I'm not sure what your age is how, but if you have been heavy all your life, plastics will probably be the only thing to fix it.

I mean you can find someone that loves you for you, but lets face it. Men are visual and you need a pleasing package to attract a man. You already know what the standards are in your community, so just plan on working out as hard as possible and building as much muscle as possible, and getting surgery to fix the spots that need it, arms, chest etc.

I get the gay subculture and vanity issues. I think it will partly be your attitude and partly depend on the amount of work your put in. I see a little melanin in your user pic so that may work in your favor as far as genetics are concerned . I was really big pre-op. I have lost over 100lbs and *still* am a little under midway to goal. So far my upper body doesn't really have any loos skin. My lower body is larger, but it's not bad either. It's too early to tell if I will need plastic there yet. However one thing I have been doing since 2 weeks out is wearing compression yoga wear as much as possible. Combined with eating well and moisturizing religiously with heavy duty products (coconut oil and baby oil gel w/ coco butter, my skin looks pretty good. No stretch marks and only 1 or 2 of the incisions are really noticeable. I haven't ruled out plastics as an end goal, but I am doing everything in my willpower to not need to resort to that.

Besides, I am a firm believer that there is a pot for every lid.

ETA: Just took a peek at your profile. I find it hard to believe no one wants a cute bear like you!

I'm definitely planning and research for plastics. Vacations are a big part of dating for me, and I want to look good at the beach.

You are a guy to toning up should be easier, but if you have loose skin, and you are dating the gay community,I would plan on plastics to fix it.

I'm not sure what your age is how, but if you have been heavy all your life, plastics will probably be the only thing to fix it.

I mean you can find someone that loves you for you, but lets face it. Men are visual and you need a pleasing package to attract a man. You already know what the standards are in your community, so just plan on working out as hard as possible and building as much muscle as possible, and getting surgery to fix the spots that need it, arms, chest etc.

I'm 28 and always struggled with my weight

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I get the gay subculture and vanity issues. I think it will partly be your attitude and partly depend on the amount of work your put in. I see a little melanin in your user pic so that may work in your favor as far as genetics are concerned . I was really big pre-op. I have lost over 100lbs and *still* am a little under midway to goal. So far my upper body doesn't really have any loos skin. My lower body is larger, but it's not bad either. It's too early to tell if I will need plastic there yet. However one thing I have been doing since 2 weeks out is wearing compression yoga wear as much as possible. Combined with eating well and moisturizing religiously with heavy duty products (coconut oil and baby oil gel w/ coco butter, my skin looks pretty good. No stretch marks and only 1 or 2 of the incisions are really noticeable. I haven't ruled out plastics as an end goal, but I am doing everything in my willpower to not need to resort to that.

Besides, I am a firm believer that there is a pot for every lid.

ETA: Just took a peek at your profile. I find it hard to believe no one wants a cute bear like you!

Awww that's sweet thank you

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