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I went to the cheesiest play last night in Chicago. We Gotta Bingo. It was interactive. Laughed my silly head off and danced a polka. It felt good to laugh.

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I went to the cheesiest play last night in Chicago. We Gotta Bingo. It was interactive. Laughed my silly head off and danced a polka. It felt good to laugh.

sounds like fun. I'm so cheesy I Iike a good ole conga line!

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May as well confess here that I danced in Old Montreal with a street person who was desperate to get people dancing to a Peruvian group playing in the square.....it was great! My vacations, mini and otherwise, no longer center around food. Yes, we ate, but for me it is not the focus, at all....thanks Band.

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Alright Banstista that's what I have been talking about I don't care who's watching or what they think I dance like nobody's around , in fact I went with another friend ( Woman) & we went to this little hole in the wall restaurant & three was a blues band , I dance pretty much to anything & it's good fun sweat exercise , shoot I didn't drink any type of alcohol for almost 20 + year's then I had 2 glasses of wine now I know that's all I can handle LOL started to get that tipsy feeling SO I drank a lot of Water & flushed it out but MY family is like your not home much anymore LOL cause I actually get out & do more now I think even though I'm living with them their starting to miss me LOL

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Hi all. Just thought I'd check in. Feeling much better today. The incision site is just a bit sore today..not feeling like I was punched in the gut like the last couple of days.

Julian stopping by to have lunch with me today before heading to Jersey to see his daughter and grandchildren. He'll be back here tomorrow night and I think we'll go to the movies on Sunday. Rainy and nasty predicted for the weekend but we've dodged a bullet as Joachin is heading out to sea rather than coming onshore. As Lisa can attest to, we were all impacted terribly by Sandy and hurricanes make us nervous in a way we never were before.

My oldest boy drove up from South Carolina to PA today with his wife and daughter to see his brother for his birthday. David has no idea and I know he will be so happy to see him. Besides, Uncle Jeremy has not yet seen his nephew and I know how much David wanted to have his brother and son meet each other.

Wish I could be there, but as long as they are together and have a good time, that's all that matters. It's good for the boys to be together. Their dad passed away 21 years ago yesterday and it's never been a good day or even a good time of the year no matter how much time has passed. This is why closure is such a bullsh*t term. It means nothing. I reminded them both that they are my late husband's legacy and the fact that they have become loving husbands and fathers shows how much he influenced them.

Have a great weekend everyone. Enjoy whatever you do, eat mindfully, and do something that makes your heart happy.

Liz

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Liz, glad you're feeling better.

I have to see my husband Tuesday at my home for a house appraisal. I have only seen him once in person in the past 15 months and that was at court. I haven't been inside my house since I left.

Lots of emotions, but of course the one thing that bothers me the most is my weight. I'm ten pounds heavier than when I saw him at court In April.

I gave up all alcohol three weeks ago but the scale has not gone down. I'm going on liquids for a couple of days even though my fill appointment got postponed this week. Protein shakes and Soups. That has always been good for a couple of pounds down in the past.

My lawyer suggested bringing a friend with me to the house. I decided against it because I don't want him picking a fight with her, and I also don't want to give the impression that I need reinforcements.

I will be so glad when this divorce is over. My lawyer told me it probably won't be done until next summer.

Meanwhile, I deal with the body issues.

I felt so confident in April, and that court date was my lowest weight since WLS. Then I spent these last six months eating wrong, drinking every weekend, and gaining these ten pounds.

Anyway, you here are my reinforcements. So talk me off the ledge, please!

Just kidding. It will be okay. I just wish I didn't feel fat this week.

That jerk is not worth this angst.

Edited to add: Mr. Wonderful always predicted I would fail at LapBand. He was openly critical and would often mock his coworker who dropped 100 pounds and then stabilized, with probably 80 left to lose. This idiot's words are in my head this week.

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Honey, it's a journey and this is just part of it. Both the weight gain and having to deal with Mr. Wonderful. Try to get him out of your head. He's just taking up space there and doing you no favors.

He obviously triggers alot of stuff for you so you have to minimize your interaction with him and minimize any damage he tries to inflict. Keep us in the loop...text if you need support and I know we'll try to be there if not physically, at least virtually.

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@ Jusrwarchme you have lost a lot of weight just think you also got rid of some extra weight that was holding you down ( soon to be X Husband) but you have gained life & so much more think of that.

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If you look at my ticker it has a turtle for a reason because it reminds me that I am in this journey for the rest of my life. I have gained weight I have lost weight.

The point is you have proved to yourself that you can lose weight and you can gain it right back if you allow food to be your coping mechanism.

You certainly have had quite a few life changing events in your life but remember your health is important do not let food be your ultimate motivation.

Besides you have come to far just to give in. Step up and get back in the fight you and you alone know what will worked for you.

Take care because no matter what happens you are worth more than food. Besides your name said a it all "JUSTWATCHYOU" and you are certainly a Bariatric Legend.

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I'm saying you are so much better without him being an anchor... Still he had the power to frustrate you...

I'm hoping as your pending divorce goes forward, he will lose his ability to control how you react to him.

Most controllers ...in my humble opinion ...Want the control and get very angry and or hurtful at not being to MAKE you do as he wants. Ha!!

Not any more... House will get settled I'm sure. At some later point

Your bariatric life will continue because you do the work.. Ok. At times (I) we slip, as the years go on, but then it focuses back and another few months go by without hard challenges....

Sending you strength ... ????

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Wow. Thank you all. This really helps. It's scheduled for a day after our wedding anniversary and so I'm going in mentally prepared for anything. He's big on dramatic showboating.

I feel very strong today. I took care of myself, said yes to what I wanted to do and no to what I didn't. food is clean and I talked to several people today who gave me good perspective on the situation. And now I checked back here to find these words of support.

You guys are the best.

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Hi there, just catching up -- Just Watch Me you are doing beautifully. Think of all you have accomplished in this last year and how your life has turned around. You made that happen, launching your beautiful daughters, Italy, choosing WLS, all the exercising....amazing to consider in such a short timeframe. This divorce on the other hand is such a long and exhausting process but it is happening. You are stalwart and mighty. Try to stay in the moment and don't let him get to you.

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I'm feeling much stronger today and centered. Not obsessing about my weight anymore. Yesterday was the anniversary. One dopey text from him, so not too bad. Tonight is the appraisal. I will bring my friend but she's going to wait in the car.

I started a new women's divorce group last night. Five women and a counselor. I was the strongest and most stable person in that room. I couldn't get over it. I was actually able to see the growth and progress of the past year in the midst of this insanity.

I'll check back in tomorrow.

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Well, mid afternoon a Migraine set in. I tried to sleep it off when I got home from work but the nausea was debilitating. I didn't go to the appraisal, which he scheduled for 10:30pm. It wasn't required that I be there, but I was entitled to. I didn't tell him I was sick, just emailed that I had an unexpected conflict and to proceed without me.

I didn't want to walk into that lion's den late at night when not at my physical and mental best. I'm sure I made the right decision.

My dear friend has a theory that my body knew I shouldn't go, so it sent me the migraine to make sure I didn't expose myself to more crazy. She may be on to something.

No regrets. I'll get the appraisal copy from my attorney.

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Edited to add: my other friend said I should have gone anyway and puked on his shoes.

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