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I wish someone had told me that there is a mourning period for never being able to eat like you did. My surgeon told me he could take care of the "belly hunger" but not the "brain hunger". That is something I deal with every day. I have NO REGRETS in getting the surgery.

I had a major meltdown about this just about a week ago. I cried myself to sleep, thinking to myself I will never be able to eat like a real person again. It took a few days to pull out of that funk and I'm doing better now, I am 7 weeks out today, yesterday was my birthday and I didn't really do anything. I am rambling now, but yes this is something I wish I had known prior to surgery!!!

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I wish someone had told me that there is a mourning period for never being able to eat like you did. My surgeon told me he could take care of the "belly hunger" but not the "brain hunger". That is something I deal with every day. I have NO REGRETS in getting the surgery.

I had a major meltdown about this just about a week ago. I cried myself to sleep, thinking to myself I will never be able to eat like a real person again. It took a few days to pull out of that funk and I'm doing better now, I am 7 weeks out today, yesterday was my birthday and I didn't really do anything. I am rambling now, but yes this is something I wish I had known prior to surgery!!!
Lot's of us have this reaction myself included. I feel it's because we have an abnormal relationship with food. We use it as comfort, and to avoid stress or anxiety along with a host of other reasons none of them having to do with food as fuel. That's the cycle that needs to be broken. I'm using the help of a therapist to hopefully permanently stop using food as an emotional crutch.

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@@nuzzlebear40 Happy Birthday!

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I wish someone had told me that there is a mourning period for never being able to eat like you did. My surgeon told me he could take care of the "belly hunger" but not the "brain hunger". That is something I deal with every day. I have NO REGRETS in getting the surgery.

I had a major meltdown about this just about a week ago. I cried myself to sleep, thinking to myself I will never be able to eat like a real person again. It took a few days to pull out of that funk and I'm doing better now, I am 7 weeks out today, yesterday was my birthday and I didn't really do anything. I am rambling now, but yes this is something I wish I had known prior to surgery!!!
Happy Belated Birthday @@nuzzlebear40

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I wish someone had told me that there is a mourning period for never being able to eat like you did. My surgeon told me he could take care of the "belly hunger" but not the "brain hunger". That is something I deal with every day. I have NO REGRETS in getting the surgery.

I had a major meltdown about this just about a week ago. I cried myself to sleep, thinking to myself I will never be able to eat like a real person again. It took a few days to pull out of that funk and I'm doing better now, I am 7 weeks out today, yesterday was my birthday and I didn't really do anything. I am rambling now, but yes this is something I wish I had known prior to surgery!!!
Happy Belated Birthday @@nuzzlebear40

Thank you!!!!

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I wish I.......

@@azsqwurl

kept weight loss records :huh:

took my measurements frequently :(

list of all my NSV's :blink:

took pictures monthly :mellow:

kept better track of my food (MFP)

weight loss problems, plateaus :(

had known you can make/use emoticons :huh: :lol: :D

there are so many many wonderful people on this board :)

knew that my memory would be effected by weight loss :angry:

I can't remember other things to say :wacko:

had kept a "private" blog containing all the above info for posterity :rolleyes:

kathy

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Wish I knew about the positive affects of the surgery a long time ago. Lots of horror stories years ago and that scared me.

Glad someone told me to research different websites and get on blogs such as this one to get real information from real patients. I made adjustments 4 months before surgery and which enabled me to adjust quickly to the eating changes and how and what to eat. I didn't have any hair loss, dry skin or any other major issues. I'm a year in May 30th of this year. I still have 40 pounds to go to my goal. I had gastric bypass.

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I'm strongly considering the sleeve and I will self pay. I'm glad you shared information about additional costs for tests. I was not aware.

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My revision from lap band to sleeve is scheduled for 9/3/15...4 days from now. I'm so glad I found these responses. I'm already having feelings of remorse over knowing I can't eat as I used to. Strangely, I'm also regretting losing most of my stomach. It seems like an odd thing to grieve about, but it's been a part of me my whole life and I feel as if I'm losing an arm or a leg. I've also been on an antidepressant for a number of years, and was told by my PCP to go off ALL meds two weeks ago. So my first 10 days on my pre-op diet have been challenging. Not sure when I can go on my antidepressant again, so am prepared for more depression these next two weeks. Since I've been warned, I'm sure I can handle it. I'm looking forward to my surgery, and feel more prepared now!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

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        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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