Loss of husband's support? :(

[Joz31 90]

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I am so sorry to hear about what you have been through and you are going through. There is no way in hell he should be saying this stuff to you whatsoever. You are correct he is showing his own insecurities but that does not make it okay. Just like I felt like my husband's comment was totally out of line.

My husband and I have been to counseling many times in part to work on our communication. No, I am not going to sweep this under the rug because it bothers me and therefore I need to talk to him about it. Do not let him bring you down, you have worked so hard to make yourself healthier. As tough as it may be, do not let him sabotage it.

[Swampdoggie 477]

Wow, les filles. My heart goes out to both of you. I don't have any advice. Just sending good energy and support from the field.

[chickalafe 3]

I think sometimes my husband is jealous that I have an awesome goal I'm working towards. Most of the time life just plods on and we all want something to go after. Also, he might be afraid you'll be all fine and sexy after and he won't be up to par. I know my husband has struggled with his weight but he doesn't qualify and now I'm gonna be the one in good shape...I think it hurts his ego. He still supports me but I wouldn't be surprised if he said something like that eventually.

[B-52 7,113]

Just wait till he sees the "After" effects....his attitude should change and you'll be the one in control.

[4MRB4PHOTO 3,899]

Could he be scared that something could happen to you during the surgery or maybe insecure that you may want to leave him for another man after you lose the excess weight?

Speak to him and find out why, the open dialogue will help both of you express your concerns.

He is probably still supportive, maybe at that little moment in the heat of an argument, his mouth was running at 8,000RPM but his brain wasn't in gear.

My wife was never very supportive, she might say a few things on Facebook, but I go by people's actions and words expressed to me.