I have two loved ones who ... for lots of reasons do not want to band.

Over the years we have shared diets and walking .

Had long and many many big discussions on

why we are fat

how we can lose fat

and most of all how miserable we are being fat.

So here I am a living breathing example of the band and nothing with them.

They have been very interested in my journey the last year .

Of course fat people love to talk about losing weight .

They both have been there for me in the good times and bad of the banding. Very supportive both of them.

I want to shake them and say Yes you have to give up stuffing yourself . But you also have to give up shopping in the Tents R Us

dept as I used to call my size of clothing.

I know I cannot run the world but I would like to.

Just needed to vent because I want these very special people in my life to have what I have.

If I just had a magic speech to make them see the light.

Both have told me they don't want to give up eating "normal" .

I don't want to be cruel to them but I know normal to them is overeating.

I love these very important women in my life .

I will just keep setting an example and keep my lip zipped.

That is why I like this site (thanks again Alex) I can speak my mind and know someone has felt as I do and can understand how I feel.

If I have to go to their funerals and they died from obesity problems I will want to kick myself. These women are 10 years younger then me but both are at 300 lbs . I know I could still have heart problems in the future but I am better off now then June 06.

Damn I feel better,

edie

Very cool, Edie! I'm thrilled for the both of you!

I know I cannot run the world but I would like to.

edie

I remember how angry i became whenever someone with good intentions mentioned to me that I should lose weight.

It wasn't until I decided for myself that Lap-Band was the way to go that I would listen.