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@@Wishfull.shrinking perhaps after your surgery and experiencing some struggles of your own u won't be judgmental and assuming that ppl aren't wanting to try little miss mouth speak of what u know not what haven't experienced

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@@Wishfull.shrinking

I felt the same way as you pre-op.

I feel the same way now. :)

Best wishes to you.

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@@Wishfull.shrinking

I felt the same way as you pre-op.

I feel the same way now. :)

Best wishes to you.

Thank you for the best wishes. I wish you the very best also.

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@@shellyd88 I am not a young girl nor single. I retired the miss title a long time ago but thank you for caring enough to repeat the general consensus on the thread. It's ok that you chose to focus on only the negative rather than my acknowledgement that I need to work on it. And even with your obvious anger and judgment of me I WILL say that I am sorry to have invoked such a passionate response from you. I would edit my original post so I don't offend anyone else, however leaving it may be able to help someone else get through what they are feeling. And I would like to do that. So I am not going to respond to any further comment and just let it be.

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WOW…don't sweat the small/big stuff! So much for us to learns from everyones thread. You had some good reflection …so don't take the bait. Other wise we'll end up getting shut down by "the man" :)

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I think perhaps once you get through your pre-op diet you have more room to rant.

I substituted a Oscar Mayer Protein pack for my Soup everyday during my pre-op diet. That's "cheating" but whatever. I did what I needed to do to get through it. And lost 21lbs in the process.

Congratulations on your approval. I just hope that once you start this journey your thoughts may soften some. Have compassion for others. We're all here for the same reason. We need to do our best to lift each other up not beat people down. You will have your slip ups. May not be during pre-op. But could be months down the road. But you shouldn't judge others on their path unless you would want the same attitude thrown at you in your hour of weakness.

May he without sin cast the first stone.

(Not being all Godly on ya, but it's a very fitting quote)

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We all are sensitive at some point in this process. I am on day 7 of a 100% liquid diet and the first two days kicked my butt. In the approval process we all have many tasks to complete and it requires dedication to complete everything.

I see this forum as a place for us to share ideas and our experiences. It will not always be sunshine and rainbows but we are all humans and deserve respect. I'm glad you stated you are working on it. One idea my therapist shared with me was to write my thoughts down in a journal or blog. Maybe that would help you release your feelings and then reflect on them before making them public.

Good luck!

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I generally agree with you because this is serious business. Seems like if a person agrees to have the majority of a key organ removed you'd bother to take the time to ask a few questions up front. However,much of what is posted during the "whiney" phase comes from emotions not clear thinking, it can be a good idea to just ignore it.

Example, every body seems to think that the bad stuff never applies to them. When they experience hunger due to acid, they think they have the only "failed" sleeve because they sorta skimmed over some of the potential "issues" and adjustment period. Most get over the temporary insanity. :)

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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