I have read other post on this subject and there is always a mix, some who told no one, some that told a few and some that told everyone. I chose to tell no one, only my husband knows. Didn't tell my kids , my mom or any friends. I am not comfortable talking about what I consider private things with people. I know other people who had the surgery and have heard the comments like how they took the easy way. This is NOT easy and totally takes over your life , because it is your life. I didn't want to feel like I had to defend my decision to anyone. Why do people think that having the surgery is not ligitiment, thats it "cheating" ? If they discovered a single pill to kill cancer, if you took that pill instead of going thru cemo and radiation would they think that was cheating ? they finally found a medical way to help people who battle weight, people who have never had to fight the weight just will never understand how hard that fight is. Thanks for listening.

You're absolutely right, it's no one's business but your own. And IF you choose to tell someone, that's the way it should be - by your choice. I think people say it's cheating out of ignorance, they don't really know what all goes into this surgery, and what is involved for after the surgery. If they say they do know what it's all about and STILL feel it is cheating, then I think they are probably just mean. Maybe I'm wrong, but I can't fathom why anyone would say or feel that it is cheating. Good for you for sticking to what you feel is right for you!

No one from work. Told closest relatives and friends.

Told only my immediate family and a handful of very close friends. All of whom only want the best for me. No one at work knows and I didn't tell my in-laws. I tell my husband all the time, my surgery wasn't and isn't a "secret"-- it's private. There is a difference. Congrats on your success.

Shorty54, I am interested to know though-- What do you tell people about how you lost the weight? I'm only a couple weeks out so I haven't had to cross that bridge yet!

Being so excited about having the surgery, I think I've told everyone. I wasn't aware that ignorant people would provide negative feedback and so far, so good.

kndoster, Just like probably you and everyone else on here, many times have dieted and lost and have had the usual conversations about it, including what exercising I was doing like going to the gym almost everyday and walking. So now I just say that I made up my mind that I wasn't giving up this time and sticking to it. When people make comments and my husband is there he speaks right up and says, "she's working hard at it and I help her by walking with her as much as I can" . We also says that its not as much dieting as it is cutting way down on my portions and not snacking, cutting carbs, cutting out soda, ect. . So when I'm around people and we're eating and I only eat a little, it all fits. Every once in a while my husband will say "I can't believe we're getting away with this " lol. Maybe someone suspects, I don't know, but unless they are really rude they're not going to bring it up. All I know is if I had told people I would also feel self concious thinking they were judging me in a negative way behind my back. As hard as I have worked in the past to lose, only to see it creep back on, I feel like I deserve to feel empowered by a sense of accomplishment.

Only fiancee and my kids no-one else in the planet but my doctors. Plan to keep it that way.

...............If they discovered a single pill to kill cancer, if you took that pill instead of going thru cemo and radiation would they think that was cheating ? they finally found a medical way to help people who battle weight, people who have never had to fight the weight just will never understand how hard that fight is.....

Shorty, who is your surgeon? My surgeon uses that exact comparison! :-)

I had planned on not telling anyone but have told a few. I am still preop. Last week I was diagnosed with type 2 diabetes so I am eating very different and excercising a lot so in sure the weight will start to come off before I have surgery so I plan on using the diabetes route for my excuse for losing weight!

And I meant to say......I have only told 4 people and no one from work will be told. If anyone asks my plan is to honestly say that I am moving more and eating less.

I am 7 days out....surgery is 3/17...I've got the luck of St. Patrick going in with me....hahaha.

just like you... only my spouse.

After a while it's hard to hide , and everyone wants to know how you did it and you have to come clean. I didn't want anyone to know cause I was (A) a little ashamed and ( if I failed ( down the road ) no one would know that I had surgery but after a year and 125LBS people stRt asking questions. !! I've learned be proud cause it's still a lot of work and mental stress

. My before and after I still got a little more to lose but all and all down 125 since 2/12/14

ImageUploadedByBariatricPal1426041494.066725.jpg. My before and after I still got a little more to lose but all and all down 125 since 2/12/14

You look amazing!!!

I've thought long and hard. My surgery is coming up 3/16/15 and my wife is the only person that knows. I want to tell me fried s but they are all SMALL and in good shape. And one friend love him I do, but he is a idiot and just wouldn't understand. I fear telling people for the fact of being judged. I still can't believe I have to have a procedure to loose weight. So I guess it has to do with me being able to confront the facts

That's amazing!! You're an inspiration.