Worst "compliment" you have gotten since surgery

[Countrygrrl 450]

I got one today. My good friend is stunning was/is a dancer has had 3 boob jobs two nose jobs and two Brazilian butt lifts. She's in her mid 20s and has a perfect six pack LOL. She said. "Wow your already loosing boobage. We may get a deal if we both go in for work at the same time."

Umm thanks... Umm I think.????????

[Shannon Piper 11]

So my most recent one "wow you lost that much already? Now you don't have to wear pull on pants."

[jess9395 5,448]

The best for me was " wow you look great, were you always this short?"

Ha ha! I would like to give a glib answer to that one except I actually DID get shorter! Doc said some people do bc we lose padding from the feet and literally become shorter. I am down 135lbs and a whole inch!

[Spicy06 175]

We've been friends for 17 years. I would hope this wouldn't end our friendship, but I really didn't appreciate her snarky comments.

I am really sorry. That is sad. You deserve a friend who is happy for you no matter if she decides to do the surgery or not. I am very lucky, my best friend of 15 years got the surgery last March and she is the one that inspired me to do it. I watched her hard work pay off and yes at times, I was totally jealous of her weight loss I was also so happy and proud of her. I really hope your friend gets out of her own way and helps support you.

[Kindle 8,667]

I got one today. My good friend is stunning was/is a dancer has had 3 boob jobs two nose jobs and two Brazilian butt lifts. She's in her mid 20s and has a perfect six pack LOL. She said. "Wow your already loosing boobage. We may get a deal if we both go in for work at the same time."

Umm thanks... Umm I think.????????

I've had the "two for one" comment from a friend's mom who's had a facelift and is looking at a boob job. I told her if she paid both halves I'm all in!

[Kindle 8,667]

I am really sorry. That is sad. You deserve a friend who is happy for you no matter if she decides to do the surgery or not. I am very lucky, my best friend of 15 years got the surgery last March and she is the one that inspired me to do it. I watched her hard work pay off and yes at times, I was totally jealous of her weight loss I was also so happy and proud of her. I really hope your friend gets out of her own way and helps support you.

Ditto. My college "fat friend" got a lap band several years ago. Of course I was envious of her weight loss, but I was also happy for her. In the end, she was part of my inspiration to get WLS. I've now lost way more weight than her (she has serious self sabotage issues and is very good at cheating her band) and although she mostly has encouraging words for me, There have been some comments that reveal that she is jealous. I don't take these comments personally because I know they stem from her disappointment in herself. I make it a point not to make my success a focal point of conversations. I simply encourage and support her and hope she will some day overcome her struggles.

@@Big Mama I hope your friend can overcome her insecurities and become the friend you deserve. In the meantime, invite her to join you in your postop diet plan to jumpstart her weightloss and maybe even set up a workout routine you can both participate in.

Edited January 7, 2015 by Kindle

[erp 2,016]

"You have lost a TON of weight" always with heavy emphasis on the word TON and quickly followed up with, "so how much have you lost?" I feel like I'm letting them down that rather than having lost 1,000 pounds, it only 100.

[LipstickLady 25,682]

"You have lost a TON of weight" always with heavy emphasis on the word TON and quickly followed up with, "so how much have you lost?" I feel like I'm letting them down that rather than having lost 1,000 pounds, it only 100.

Love this one. I usually answer with, "Well, actually TWO tons, I hid my weight ell, don't you think?" or, "Well, actually only a HALF ton, I must have looked much larger than I was to you."

Ha!

[GreenEyes604 753]

First off, I truly believe that real friends tell you what you need to hear, not what you want to hear. Having said that, REAL friends are not going to tell you what you need to hear in an insulting or derogatory manner. Telling me something I need to hear by insulting me, degrading me, or putting me down about it, does not in my mind qualify you to be a friend! Not to mention, if you come at me like that, you are more than likely to get your feelings hurt by my response.

Now as for the direct comment... I challenge anyone to give me an instance where using the word "fat" is pleasant, positive or complimentary.

Go ahead... I'll wait!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

So you're telling me that saying "You used to be SO FAT but now you aren't!" isn't nice? Hmmm...

[GreenEyes604 753]

@@LipstickLady see that's why I love you, because you got jokes!

[LipstickLady 25,682]

@@LipstickLady see that's why I love you, because you got jokes!

Did you just call me FAT!?!?!?!

[RedSalamander 148]

You know, so many, maybe ALL, of these comments stem from the same thing: people feeling they have the right to make comments about other people's bodies. ESPECIALLY fat people's. Well, f-- that. I personally tell my children that it's never appropriate to make comments, even "compliments" that involve people's bodies. I don't comment on the weight loss of even close friends unless they bring it up--I say things like, "You look great! How are you feeling?" (Which leaves it up to them how to respond!) People's bodies are off-limits to comments.

Beyond that, I teach my kids that fat isn't an appropriate thing to call someone or a way to describe someone, because people's bodies are private and off-limits. But I let them know that I think I'm beautiful NOW! Just this morning, my daughter (4) made a comment about my "fat tummy" and I said, "Yes! My beautiful, fat tummy! Do you want to snuggle against my warm fat tummy?"

Own it all. End the cycle of shame. Put the haters in their place(s).

[Rogofulm 2,440]

I guess my favorite comment was, "You've lost a crap-ton of weight, haven't you?!" LOL!!!

[mrs kaje 347]

I guess my favorite comment was, "You've lost a crap-ton of weight, haven't you?!" LOL!!!

Is "crap-ton" a metric or imperial unit of measure?