My sleeve surgery is in January. My 6 year old son heard me and my husband talking about my surgery and he started crying uncontrollably.

Begging me not to have surgery not to go to the hospital.

Im so guilt ridden, my main concern is my children if any problems should happen while having surgery or after.

I constant thoughts are should I put myself and my kids through this and risk a serious complication?

Or,

Should I go ahead with it? Should I try another attempt at dieting? Im so over loaded that Im depressing myself, and on the verge of having a crying fit when ever my son asks about it.

So torn, what to do. ????

I have a three year old. My logic with the surgery is this, is the risk of dying from surgery greater than the risk of dying from something I could have prevented? And is it worth the rush of surgery to make quality if life better for both of us? I want him to know that j tried and not that I just let myself die behind something I could have prevented.

My sleeve surgery is in January. My 6 year old son heard me and my husband talking about my surgery and he started crying uncontrollably.

Begging me not to have surgery not to go to the hospital.

Im so guilt ridden, my main concern is my children if any problems should happen while having surgery or after.

I constant thoughts are should I put myself and my kids through this and risk a serious complication?

Or,

Should I go ahead with it? Should I try another attempt at dieting? Im so over loaded that Im depressing myself, and on the verge of having a crying fit when ever my son asks about it.

So torn, what to do.

I used to work as a Child Life Specialist. It was my job to make the hospital experience easier for children and families. Your little one has overheard some scary adult conversation. This is a teaching moment.

Explain to your child that yes you are having surgery because you need help being healthier. The doctor will be doing a small operation on your tummy. You will not feel anything because the doctor will give you special medicine that puts you to sleep while he works. When he is done he will wake you up. You will be sore for a little while, but then you will feel better and be better able to play with them. You may need to repeat this conversation several times. Lastly children pick up cues from their parents. If you are weepy and nervous acting around him, he will pick up on those non verbal cues.

Edited December 6, 201411 yr by BLERDgirl