Ok, I have lost 50lbs but still feel fat! So..., what's the real problem? I don't feel visible yet, still not noticed. I know, pity party! I just don't know how to feel good about myself...yet advice? Surgery was 5-5/14, starting weight 205...

I agree with @@psymom, but I think big girls can be easy targets for men. I think that sometimes when a man sees a big woman and hits on her he's wondering if she cooks with gas or electric and what she can do for him. I think many (not all) assume big girls have low self esteem and will just accept whomever, whenever. I simply adore any woman who acts like a lady and carries herself as such, no matter her size.