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Hi, I started my WLS journey back in May I had to lose 5% of my weight for insurance purposes so I had to go to the Dr. for 6 months, I lost 62 pounds on this alone I started from 321 pounds. Now people who were supportive at 1st are asking me "You've lost so much, why don't you just do it on your own?" Is there a good answer for this, right now I'm on 4 weeks of slim fast I started that 2 weeks ago and tend to be a little irritable these days my surgery date is Nov 21st.

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All you have to say is that losing the weight is not the problem and it never has. The problem is keeping it off and the surgery is my best shot at it.

It's alot more than that of course, but it will answer your detractors. Hang in there and keep your eye on the prize...and don't let anyone derail you.

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you (are) doing it on your own

the band is just a plastic necklace around your stomach

that will help you eat less (period).

YOU are the one who is eating better/choosing better foods for you

YOU are the one exercising

YOU are the one who is staying hydrated to live

hm....seems like YOU are doing the work..

sometimes no comment speaks volumes.

OR

say thank you, i am doing well arent i??

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The surgery is your best shot of KEEPING IT OFF.....

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We're all on our own, aren't we? No one can do it for us -- we have to take care of our bodies ourselves. Personally I try not to talk about my weight loss except for here on the forum as I don't think other people can really understand what it is to not be able to control eating or to be able to lose weight in any kind of a permanent way. That's why we elect weight loss surgery -- we need the assistance. Finally admitting this to myself was very powerful -- the choosing myself first and my healthy future was not a cop out -- it was a lifesaver and I am forever grateful. Pat yourself on the back for your great pre-surgery loss -- you're doing so well. It's a lifestyle change and you are showing up for your part. You are going to do beautifully!

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You really can't counter ignorance... people who tell you that have no clue what you are going through, or what others have gone through. Just smile, and ignore their comments. Arguing won't do any good, explaining why you need surgery won't do any good. Take their "advice" with a good nature, and then do what is BEST FOR YOU. In the end, you have to answer to yourself, and no one else. They may mean well, but trust that you know what is best, and don't bother engaging in useless debates. This is one reason I kept my surgery private!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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