Change?

[lisah25 3]

Yes. and I love here at well and have since the week this board opened. I think it a bit unfair to suggest that anyone leave because their are no longer boundaries (as there once was) about how one faction can tear down another and get by with it.

I tried really hard to avoid suggesting anyone leave.

My point was and is that a board reflects those on it as much as anything.

What I actually wanted to add is that I think it's great to bring up suggestions and talk about them.

[leatha_g 4]

As a user of RNR, what i wouldn't like about this is -- I use "new posts" all the time, and want to see all new posts, including RNR posts. Given a choice, I'd rather not have to make a special trip to the forum to find the messages. I access 98% of what I read via new posts.

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This can be accomplished by using your subscribed posts link in the Quick Links function. It does not have to show up in the New Posts section.

[DrewsLou 3]

I don't mean this to sound as cold as I think it's going to. And that is that there are lots of support places on the net. Not all of them are going to suit everyone. I love it here. I love that I can have debates, fun threads and get/give support for bandsters all in one place. I've been on other groups that just don't do it for me. So I left and found this place that does.

Note - I am in no way at all suggesting anyone should leave, just that people need to decide what they want to spend their time on.

Sure sounds like (to me) you are suggesting people leave if they don't like it. Funny how someone posts a thread on how they feel LBT could be improved for EVERYONE and it is inferred that they leave if they don't like it? I guess that will just leave the select few that dominate the R&R section of the board and screw the rest of us?? Interesting.

[lisah25 3]

Sure sounds like (to me) you are suggesting people leave if they don't like it. Funny how someone posts a thread on how they feel LBT could be improved for EVERYONE and it is inferred that they leave if they don't like it? I guess that will just leave the select few that dominate the R&R section of the board and screw the rest of us?? Interesting.

OK, I'm clearly not being clear. Sorry, I didn't mean that at all.

[wavydaby 1]

So, ok, You're member of one of the people being talked about on the R&R threads.

(A Mormon, a Homesexual, A person abused by a pro-boylove person, someone who is against abortion, a Christian, who ever)

You come to LBT because you are thinking about getting a band or have one and need support and this is the main link that google posted.

You look over the boards and you see the last 5 posted items, and one of them is one of those R&R threads, I'm gonna wager, its going to give you a very negative view of this board.

[wavydaby 1]

I love debates too, but why does it have to be "all out there"??????

[lisah25 3]

I deleted my message, it really wasn't worded well and didn't say what I was thinking. I'm sorry!

[DrewsLou 3]

I love debates too, but why does it have to be "all out there"??????

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[enterprise01 0]

I would love to have an option to "ignore" an entire thread kinda like you can "ignore" users....

Yes, that would be a great way of handling it. This isn't about censorship or free speech, it's about having to wade through the piles of crap in New Posts to find the actual support threads.

[anonemouse 1]

Funny how someone posts a thread on how they feel LBT could be improved for EVERYONE and it is inferred that they leave if they don't like it?

The thing is, not EVERYONE thinks it would be an improvement.

I think that all Lisah25 was saying is that if you really like a place, you take the bad with the good. You weigh the pros and cons of what you like or dislike. If the pros are stronger, stay. If the cons are stronger, leave.

[DrewsLou 3]

Lisa... thanks for clarifying. I was hoping you weren't really saying if we didn't like it we should leave!

[leatha_g 4]

So, ok, You're member of one of the people being talked about on the R&R threads.

(A Mormon, a Homesexual, A person abused by a pro-boylove person, someone who is against abortion, a Christian, who ever)

You come to LBT because you are thinking about getting a band or have one and need support and this is the main link that google posted.

You look over the boards and you see the last 5 posted items, and one of them is one of those R&R threads, I'm gonna wager, its going to give you a very negative view of this board.

True. And I'm very saddened by this. There was a day when I invited everyone I knew considering banding to this board, but very honestly, I don't encourage a soul to come here anymore. I wouldn't have a total stranger subjected to some of the things said here over the past few months.

I have a sister in law who is banded, I have a brother who is being banded soon and there is no way I'd give them this link.

Someone said it very correctly, if you wouldn't say it to them in their own living room, you have no business saying it online either.

[wavydaby 1]

Again, Lapband board.

Abortion is not part of getting a lapband.

I like the R&R section. Give me a good reason why it has to be "shown off" though?????

[lisah25 3]

Lisa... thanks for clarifying. I was hoping you weren't really saying if we didn't like it we should leave!

Lauren got closer to what I meant.

All boards will have pros and cons, and are driven by all of us who post on them. They will change over time as membership changes, according to what we want. We won't of course always agree, and what I was trying to say is that no site can be all things to all people. It takes communication about what we all want and working out how to do that. And someone isn't going to be happy no matter what is decided.

Is that clearer?

[DrewsLou 3]

The thing is, not EVERYONE thinks it would be an improvement.

I think that all Lisah25 was saying is that if you really like a place, you take the bad with the good. You weigh the pros and cons of what you like or dislike. If the pros are stronger, stay. If the cons are stronger, leave.

Life is about compromise. The R&R threads would still be there... they wouldn't be disappearing (with what some of us are proposing) but I would'nt be faced with "boy-love" threads as soon as I clicked on New Posts.

Someone will have to give. Either those of us that are sick of seeing it just "suck it up" or the R&R users just have to acess those threads a little differently.

No harm done.