Hi! I had my surgery yesterday and on the way into surgery, my doctor told me that I couldn't pick up my 18 month old son (25 lbs) for a month!! That's not really possible as I'm his primary care giver, and though I will try to get him to do his own walking/ climbing, I'm still gong to need to get him in/out of his crib/carseat/stroller etc... I'm just wondering if anyone else has little kids and how you've dealt with the post-op and healing while still being a good parent?

Is there another parent or other family member who can help? A babysitter? Friend? Neighbors? Time to rally the troops!

I have worked nights a good part of my son's existence so he is very in tune with me most of the time. I usually gathered things that I know that he liked so they were in the same room with us. Call me a bad mom but I put little snacks like apples that were already cut up, his juice cups and such at the bottom of the fridge so with instruction he could go and get them. I talk very plainly to my son so he understands that we have to work together and I don't know it just works. So I guess gathering stuff you and he use, prepping snack or other food, coloring supplies, and napping together when need....I hope that helps some.

Part of being a "good parent " is taking good care of yourself and setting an example on how to be healthy. You are no less a "good parent " by following the rules as much as possible. So , you might try a "trial run " of parenting your toddler without lifting him. See what you can prepare / fix ahead etc now. Meals, premade snacks, diaper bags packed etc. Good luck !

Thanks everyone!!

I'm raising my 16 month old granddaughter. I was banded on Wednesday. She stayed with her godmother until Friday. My only restriction was no driving for 24 hours. She is trained to go up the steps when its night time. I then pick her up to put her in the crib.