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Oh by the way I am so obsessed I keep watching videos on the actual surgical procedure for the sleeve . I know I'm nuts... But I want to see exactly what they are doing.

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I'm self-pay in Mexico to and I scheduled mine for as soon as I could logistically swing it, between getting my pre and post-op supplies, arranging for time off work, and getting the money together. I booked my surgery on July 28th for Sept. 1, so just 5 weeks out. But even just waiting the 5 weeks is making me crazy!

That's awesome!! I'm hesitant to book it at the beginning of sept because of a wedding but I'm

Thinking the following week!

Who is your surgeon?

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all i can think about is getting my sleeve.

all i want to do is read and write on the forums.

the only things in my calendar that mean anything to me are the appointments for my pre-op tests... everything else is a waste of my time.

is my obsession unusual? i'm finding myself less than engaged at work, which is a first. i usually forget everything else while i'm at the office, i've always been very good at compartmentalizing. i resent the time spent doing anything that does not lead toward my surgery.

can you relate?

I don't know if it's an obsession, but the surgery definitely consumes my thoughts. A characteristic of a lot of obese freinds and family, is that they tend to be selfless, always thinking of helping others. For me, family, friends and work comes before my needs, not that I don't do things for myself but I tend to put other things above me in priorities. For once I'm making myself the number one priority, I can't help everyone with everything right now, work is not my number one priority, my health and my focus are my priority. Is that an obsession? Am I unusual, or do some of you feel the same?

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i have a tentative date that they told me might get pushed back....I'm sad because it was a "fail" on the psych part....personally i think my answers were not correct, misunderstood....all i want is this sleeve. 17 years of failing and i need this

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True...waiting on my PCP to decide when she wants to write and fax my letter and other paperwork to the surgeon's office. I thought I could get the letter the day I completed my 3 month supervised weight loss, but it has been a week and a half, and if was told to contact her office on Monday. Big SIGH! SIGH again. It has been a big secret - only three people know what I've been doing. Living in a kind of limbo.

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I am the exact same way! I've been looking at people on Instagram that have had success that even my husband is tired of "look babe! Look how amazing she's done!" "That's all I'll be able to eat" "that's her stomach!!" My surgery isn't until Oct 19 but I think about moving it up every day since I'm doing self pay in Mexico. Would you move yours to sooner if you could?

I wanted to be sleeved late July but with our schedules We couldn't get away till sept 4 th. I'm so envious of those on the losers bench I wish I had bit the bullet and gone of my own July 27th and been done by now!

Sept 4th cannot come soon enough. I wished I'd looked into this 15 years ago! My job is suffering from my constant OBSESSION with my sleeve! None of my coworkers even know what I'm up to! BTW, I a straight commission sales person! I'm not making any money right now cause all I think about is this damn sleeve!

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That's awesome!! I'm hesitant to book it at the beginning of sept because of a wedding but I'm

Thinking the following week!

Who is your surgeon?

Ariel Ortiz at the Obesity Control Center.< /p>

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Whenever I have to focus and achieve an important goal for myself I notice that I need to become the "Star" of my own life. It seems a little selfish to most women. We are so used to putting everyone else's needs if front of our own.

My attitude is, this is the biggest thing in my life right now and it's a good time for everyone who cares about me to get on board and help me prepare myself and accomplish my goals.

Sure I'm into it. That seems ok to me.

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Oh yes, I can definitely relate to you. I was so obsessed with before and after pics a few months back. My hubby would always comment on how much I was on the WLS forums, so I stopped for a while. I always think about my surgery. I cannot tell you how many times I sat down and looked over my WLS notebook, lol. I want to make sure that I understand what to do after my surgery. constantly looking at the nutritional info on my Protein powders, its crazy over here. So that I will not get on my hubby's nerves, I stopped with the WLS talk. But now that my surgery is near, my hubby talks about it. Even my 4 year old asks me is it time for me to get the FAT CUT OFF, lol. Now, where did he get that from, lol.

Yes, I can relate. You are not alone, lol. And I am revved up and ready to go!

Who's with me?

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I can totally relate, I like to sleep in on the weekends I don't work, but yesterday and today, I get up at 6 am and start on all the sites about the sleeve. I am so excited about this, because my husband is 100% behind me. I finally have my PCP appointment on Tuesday, and go see my Psyhc on Thursday. I need an upper GI and blood work and sleep test before I can a date... hoping soon. good luck to all having surgery soon

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I don't know if it's an obsession, but the surgery definitely consumes my thoughts. A characteristic of a lot of obese freinds and family, is that they tend to be selfless, always thinking of helping others. For me, family, friends and work comes before my needs, not that I don't do things for myself but I tend to put other things above me in priorities. For once I'm making myself the number one priority, I can't help everyone with everything right now, work is not my number one priority, my health and my focus are my priority. Is that an obsession? Am I unusual, or do some of you feel the same?

Yes! That explains me exactly. For once I'm thinking of myself. It's really hard to do. I find myself feeling guilty because my boss will be lost without me, or because I'm telling my hubby no on things he wants cause every penny goes to my surgery fund, or because my mom is really sick and I should be helping her. But I think for all the times we've been selfless we really deserve this!

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Totally!!!!!!!…. hell thats what am doing right now…and am at work..

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I'm working too! Hahaha! I am soooo happy to hear I am not the only one. I have been walking on cloud nine impatiently awaiting my surgery date!

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OMG! I thought that it was just me! I literally eat, sleep, breath my approval and surgery date! The wait is making me miserable :( when I'm at work, I put my earphones on and turn my phone face down because I can't read the forums so I listen to success stories on YouTube! When I get off I get in my car read a few threads here THEN start my car and pull out of the parking lot! When I get home, I take a shower, CALL MY INSURANCE COMPANY to see if my paperwork is out of review then I email the hospital assistant who sends the information to the insurance to tell her it's still in review! I read more forums, google more before and after pictures, watch and listen to more success stories on YouTube, read more studies on my chosen WLS! I'm a mess! My husband just shakes his head! I do manage to cook dinner sometimes and other wifely duties but other than that, my entire days and evenings are consumed with this ordeal! The hospital staff is probably thinking, "damn we can't wait to this girl gets her WLS" lol!! Funny thing is, I don't talk about it to NO BODY! Ugh! I'm excited for the weight/wait to be over!

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