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What would I change? I would take the money I spent on it, get a personal trainer, a shrink and a good nutritionist and not get surgery.

One of the biggest regrets of my life. It might be great for some people, but it has NOT been for me.

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Sorry to hear it Melodica.

I wish I hadn't been so nervous pre op, but I don't think there's a way to change that. It helped me lose more weight too.

food funerals and getting the last bits of unhealthy things does nothing. My tastes have changed so much I don't crave anything or miss anything.

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I would have built up my Protein stores more, as in increased the grams of it I was getting in pre-op. I would have also had a plan incase of complications. Because I ended up with complications, longer hospital stay and now a home health nurse. I have 3 kids so it makes it easier and more challenging at the same time.

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I am thrilled with my choices leading up to surgery and the experience that I have had. I lost 40 pounds pre surgery, began a worked out routine, began tracking on MFP, and made as many changes as I could before surgery. It made all the difference after. My only regret is that I did a very poor job of taking photos of myself on this journey. I always avoided cameras because I hated seeing how large I was. Now I wish I had a few. I think it would help remind me why I never want to go back to living in the prison that body was.

Good luck!

Carol

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More pre-op photos! I was always the photographer, so not many photos of me. Sometimes, I need to look at those photos to see the changes. Even at 95+ lbs lost, I sometimes see the pre- op me in the mirror.

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I would not change a thing other than as others have said, having the surgery 20 years earlier.

Ditto. RNY is the best thing I have ever done for myself. For the first time ever, I look forward to each day fearlessly, without worry for my health, how much pain I'll feel, what I can or can't do, or being embarrassed about how I look. This is the first summer I've truly enjoyed since 1985. :-)

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Thanks, rhfactor272 for the support!!

The thing that bothers me MOST about my situation is that is appears it is the "norm" rather than the exception.

People who's insuance doesn't cover bariatric sign the "contract" with their surgeon, but the insurance company knows nothing about that (personal) arrangement, so when the surgeon bills them, making it "appear" to be medical, the insurance pays under your regular (medical) plan provisions. Guess what???!!! Your doctor is actually getting paid twice for the same procedure...they just use loopholes to get away with it. Your insurance thinks the claims are medical; they don't know you have a separate contract for a "self-pay" price and, because patients aren't sent a bill afterwards, most people don't notice and/or don't care that the surgeon got money from both places.

Be aware....they will probably do a "liver biopsy" as a routine part of the procedure, but it will COST you as if it was a "medical complication/discovery" during your surgery! Same with adhesions/scar tissue, etc....that they KNOW you'll have if you've already had a Lap-Band!!! It's really quite unethical that they do that; unfortunately, not illegal or (direct) fraud; however, it IS a breach of contract (if you signed one with them).

Sorry to get on my "soapbox", but I am sick and tired of insurance and physicians getting rich off us "little people" (ha.ha, which we ARE now that we've had surgery!!!)

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My surgery is one month away...if YOU knew then, what you know now...what would you do differently?

I would make sure all my post op going home questions were answered. I felt like they packed me up and sent me home and I was really scared. I gained 20 lbs of Fluid while in hospital. They sent home nausea medication and never told me about it. I didn't know what to expect or know why they thought I was well enough to go home.

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Nothing I am loving my results and the 9 months prepping for surgery allowed me time to deal with my emotional eating, making better eating choices and exercising . This is a wonderful tool and I am loving the new me and can't wait to see where I will be by Xmas, I'm currently saving money to go on a shopping spree for my hard-work .

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Nothing. I couldn't be more happy with where I am at.

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

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