Jump to content
×
Are you looking for the BariatricPal Store? Go now!

Very heavy pre-op ANXIETY



Recommended Posts

Hello everyone, I am still pending a surgery date, I have done all requirements but the psychologist (have appt in three day) I feel so anxious in the most negative way possible. I am starting to become slightly depressed and don't wanna go anywhere bc I don't wanna be seen at this weight anymore. I have not been able to sleep and have been so distracted at work bc all I can think about is not being this heavy. There is so much waiting and I am not blessed with patience in this life :( please help!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You will be so happy you did this. I gave my daughter-in-law 2 shirts that are to big for me already. I had very little pain, no nausea, & came home from the hospital & slept on my side the first night. I'm still learning what & how much I can eat. I had my surgery on May 12th. So far so good. Don't let anxiety get the better of you. Positive thoughts will give you positive results. I wish you all the best in letting that thin person inside of you out.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I know what you are saying: I was becoming a hermit as well before my surgery. I knew I needed to make a change for me to be healthy physically and emotionally. I kept me focus on my "list" of requirements I needed to do to allow me to do surgery. I am only 1 month post surgery but I am feeling more like my old self and I actually see and feel this working! You are so close! Some anxiety is natural because it is a big change but it is SO worth it! Good luck!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I'm having surgery in four weeks, and I'm feeling the same way. I'd be perfectly happy just to stay home and hide in my bedroom until my surgery date gets here. In fact, I'm starting my pre-op diet early, just because the wait is driving me crazy nutsola, and I desperately want to be doing something.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

I feel like I totally wanna do this because the wait is just killing me, my God. It would help to know the surgery date so that I don't end up liquid dieting for 2 months =/ My psych appointment is tomorrow so I am hoping that they call me for a surgery scheduling two to three days after, otherwise I will be calling them lol

I'm having surgery in four weeks, and I'm feeling the same way. I'd be perfectly happy just to stay home and hide in my bedroom until my surgery date gets here. In fact, I'm starting my pre-op diet early, just because the wait is driving me crazy nutsola, and I desperately want to be doing something.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Its a normal feeling. For me the surgery end up being a piece of cake. No pain to speak of and could drink Water after waking up.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

You are not your weight. Yes, you have excess weight on you right now, but you can't let your life be defined by it. You are an interesting person with hopes and dreams and family and friends. Don't let your weight crush you emotionally. Obsession just leads to crabbiness and possibly the psych telling you you need to come back for a repeat visit to work on your issues before your surgery.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

take this time to practice eating slowly, chewing well and not drinking with meals.

wean yourself off of sugar and processed carb foods (and fast food/take out if you eat that).

establish a regular exercise practice.

most people actually feel after the surgery that they wish they had had more time to prepare and practice for their new lifestyle.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

trust me…you will be so happy you did this surgery. you will be surprised how quickly you get a surge of energy! you will start enjoying life so much more! I went through something similar WAITING for that surgery date, but once I got it, it's been all up hill ever since. Chin up! You're doing the right thing! Don't let this discourage you!! Best of luck!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Don't second guess your decision. I am on day 6 of post-op and am on a liquid diet. I haven't felt this good in over 20 years. The surgery had 1-2 days of minimal discomfort. I have been home for 4 days and haven't even looked at the pain meds. I'm drinking my liquids, Protein shakes and Vitamins and for someone who hasn't eaten anything in 7 days, I have more energy than I did a month ago. I'm down 10 pounds since the surgery. I'm not hungry and actually take greater joy in cooking now than I did before. I guess it's my way to rebuild my relationship with food, and this is the first stage.

There's never going to be a better time or way to change your life. You can do it, believe me, you will!! Good luck sweetie!!

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

The few months before my surgery, I left the house for daily walks, for doctor's appointments, and when I needed to get groceries. I understand not wanting to go anywhere or do anything. I did spend a lot of time cleaning the house (especially the kitchen...getting rid of all the junk food and pit falls so it wouldn't be there post-surgery)

Good luck on your psych eval :) Hopefully you get your appointment quickly.

Share this post


Link to post
Share on other sites

Create an account or sign in to comment

You need to be a member in order to leave a comment

Create an account

Sign up for a new account in our community. It's easy!

Register a new account

Sign in

Already have an account? Sign in here.

Sign In Now

  • Trending Products

  • Trending Topics

  • Recent Status Updates

    • LeighaTR

      I am new here today... and only two weeks out from my sleeve surgery on the 23rd. I am amazed I have kept my calories down to 467 today so far... that leaves me almost 750 left for dinner and maybe a snack. This is going to be tough for two weeks... but I have to believe I can do it!
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
    • Doughgurl

      Hey everyone. I'm new here so I thought I should introduce myself. I am 53y/o and am scheduled for Gastric Bypass on June 25th, 2025. I'm located in San Antonio, Texas. I will be having my surgery in Tiajuana Mexico. I've wanted this for years, but I always had insurance where bariatric procedures were excluded. Finally I am able to afford to pay out of pocket.  I can't wait to get started, and I hope I'm prepared for the initial period of "hell". I know what I have signed up for, but I'm sure the good to come will out way the temporary period of discomfort and feelings of regret. I'd love to find people to talk to who have been through the same procedure or experience before. So I look forward to meeting you all. Hope you have a great week!
      · 2 replies
      1. Selina333

        I'm so happy for you! You are about to change your life. I was so glad to get the sleeve done in Dec. I didn't have feelings of regret overall. And I'm down almost 60 lbs. I do feel a little sad at restaurants. I can barely eat half a kid's meal. I get adults meals often because kid ones don't have the same offerings at times. Then I feel obligated to eat on that until it's gone and that can be days. So the restaurant thing isn't great for me. All the rest is fine by me! I love feeling full with very little. I do wish I could drink when eating. And will sip at the end. Just a strong habit to stop. But I'm working on it! You will do fine! Just keep focused on your desire to be different. Not better or worse. But different. I am happy both ways but my low back doesn't like me that heavy. So I listened (also my feet!). LOL! Update us on your journey! I'm not far from you. I'm in Houston. Good luck and I hope it all goes smoothly! Would love to see pics of the town you go to for this. I've never been there. Neat you will be traveling for this! Enjoy the journey. Take it one day at a time. Sometimes a few hours at a time. Follow all recommendations as best you can. 💗

      2. Doughgurl

        Thank you so much for your well wishes. I am hoping that everything goes easy for me as well. We don't eat out much as it is, so it wont be too bad in that department. Thankfully. Also, I hear you regarding your back and feet!! I'd like to add knees to the list. Killing me as we speak! I'm only 5' so the weight has to go. Too short to carry all this weight. Menopause really did a doosey on me. (😶lol) My daughter also lives in Houston. with her Husband and my 5 grand-littles. I grew up in Beaumont, so I know Houston well, I will be sure to keep in touch and update you on my journey. I may need some advice in the future, or just motivation. Thank You so much for reaching out, I was hoping to connect with someone in the community. I really appreciate it. 💜

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. LeighaTR

        I hope your surgery on Wednesday goes well. You will be able to do all sorts of new things as you find your new normal after surgery. I don't know this from experience yet, but I am seeing a lot of positive things from people who have had it done. Best of luck!

    • Alisa_S

      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
      · 1 reply
      1. summerseeker

        Life as a big person had limited my life to what I knew I could manage to do each day. That was eat. I hadn't anything else to look forward to. So my eating choices were the best I could dream up. I planned the cooking in managable lots in my head and filled my day with and around it.

        Now I have a whole new big, bigger, biggest, best days ever. I am out there with those skinny people doing stuff i could never have dreamt of. Food is now an after thought. It doesn't consume my day. I still enjoy the good home cooked food but I eat smaller portions. I leave food on my plate when I am full. I can no longer hear my mother's voice saying eat it all up, ther are starving children in Africa who would want that!

        I still cook for family feasts, I love cooking. I still do holidays but I have changed from the All inclusive drinking and eating everything everyday kind to Self catering accommodation. This gives me the choice of cooking or eating out as I choose. I rarely drink anymore as I usually travel alone now and I feel I need to keep aware of my surroundings.

        I don't know at what point my life expanded, was it when I lost 100 pounds? Was it when I left my walking stick at home ? Was it when I said yes to an outing instead of finding an excuse to stay home ? i look back at my last five years and wonder how loosing weight has made such a difference. Be ready to amaze yourself.

        BTW, the liquid diet sucks, one more day and you are over the worst. You can do it.

    • CaseyP1011

      Officially here for a long time, not just a good time💪
      · 0 replies
      1. This update has no replies.
  • Recent Topics

  • Hot Products

  • Sign Up For
    Our Newsletter

    Follow us for the latest news
    and special product offers!
  • Together, we have lost...
      lbs

    PatchAid Vitamin Patches

    ×