Ex-Friend Keeps Writing Negatively About Me on Different Blogs and Web Sites

[DivaStyleCoach 89]

OMG - this ex-friend sounds like a certified psychopath...I underwent weight loss surgery because of a family history of diabetes, heart disease and high blood pressure that would likely have KILLED me had I not lost as much weight as WLS helped me to lose. I was seeing health effects in me in my mid 40's that affected my Mama in her late 70's!!

Brush yo shoulders off and keep it moving, girlfriend - you made the right decision for YOU. She's gotta make her decision her way, and you've simply OUTGROWN her!

Edited June 12, 2014 by DivaStyleCoach

[Sharon Chen 39]

Yes, she weighs well over 300 lbs and is morbidly obese. She thinks she's healthy though since she eats vegan.

Wtf???????????
Omg my blood is boiling, it makes no sense to me? She wants to be around people that positive about their bodies but dumps you when you make the decision that you want to love yourself?

It's not healthy to be fat FOR MIND BODY AND SOUL? Why should you have to "accept" it and suffer in order for her "mental health" to be stable? It's your f**king life!! YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AND PHYSICAL HEALTH IS THE MAIN PRIORITY, forget her. She mustn't have been a great friend to begin with.

It sounds to be that she's maybe jealous because she knows you're going to succeed? One if the first lines was "us fatties" so I'm assuming she's overweight and in denial with the "fat acceptance" bullshit.

[spop2 5]

I'm so sorry this is happening to you! You have friends & a family HERE to support you, love you, & lift you up!!!! Hang in there & remember you deserve better than her negativity!!!!

[Olarance75 215]

Lol...there is nothing healthy abt weighing over 300 pounds.....she has just given up and is making excuses to justify her unwillness to do something about her weight. She is eating more than just Vegan believe that.

Yes, she weighs well over 300 lbs and is morbidly obese. She thinks she's healthy though since she eats vegan.

Wtf???????????

Omg my blood is boiling, it makes no sense to me? She wants to be around people that positive about their bodies but dumps you when you make the decision that you want to love yourself?

It's not healthy to be fat FOR MIND BODY AND SOUL? Why should you have to "accept" it and suffer in order for her "mental health" to be stable? It's your f**king life!! YOUR MENTAL HEALTH AND PHYSICAL HEALTH IS THE MAIN PRIORITY, forget her. She mustn't have been a great friend to begin with.

It sounds to be that she's maybe jealous because she knows you're going to succeed? One if the first lines was "us fatties" so I'm assuming she's overweight and in denial with the "fat acceptance" bullshit.

[nerms 237]

@@Sharon C.

Thought so..

It is sad though, maybe she can't afford it or maybe she is really deep down in the fat acceptance brain washing she's given herself.

It's easy to be angry but really it's quite clear that she has a lot of problems. So just leave her where she belongs, in the past.

Your health and your life is what's most important and there are hundreds of us right here to support you and be your friend. We won't write nasty blogs about you

It's amazing what jealousy does to people!

[moonlitestarbrite 902]

You are right.

I did not know about the most recent posting she made on a blog yesterday until a friend saw it and pointed it out to me.

draw a firm line. ask your friend to not speak to you about her. period. no matter what she writes or says. i had a friend walk away from me a number of years ago. she would never speak to me about what she was upset about, but she stayed friends with my housemate. eventually i needed to ask my housemate to not speak to me about her anymore and please not speak to her about me (which i only had her word about, but that was okay for me). be firm. tell your friend its just too painful for you, you need her to please spare your feelings (doesnt matter, whatever works to get her to shut up).

you have to take care of yourself now. this is a good start to a new life.

[L-in-NJ 136]

As everyone has already said she has some serous issues and it's better that you find out now then look to her for support after your surgery and she abandons you. You don't need that kind of person in your life. Her exit from your like will leave an opening for just the right person to come along and be a true friend. Good luck to you.

[blondiebabs 214]

I seriously sitting here still like... wtf did I just read!?!?!?!?! Good for you for blocking her on FB. You don't need her drama.

[soocalchic 1,087]

That b i o t c h is just jealous that's all.. She has some serious issues and your wls has nothing to do with it. Like PP said hit the ignore button on her and move on. You don't need friends like that..

Edited June 12, 2014 by soocalchic

[Travelmego 235]

She is obviously a crazy loon having her day in the sun with a completely made up dialogue in her own head. It's probably the echo from having her head up her a$$.

Do what everyone else said - put her out of your life. Look at her like she is a babbling crazy person walking down the street and don't let her words affect you. She has to live in her own bile. I promise you, her life is miserable.

[blondiebabs 214]

@@Travelmego " It's probably the echo from having her head up her a$$. " BWHAHAHA I like that one, will have to remember it.

[I will what I want 271]

She has serious mental health issues. Block her on FB and elsewhere. She seems like the type who will attempt to bully/shame/stalk you since she is not getting her way. She's attempting to get a rise out of you, like a little kid. That's what bullies do. She will get tired of her little game soon enough and move onto someone else. The best response is for you to live your life with courage and grace. Be well my dear.

[pjpanda 129]

There is only one point I can agree with your ex friend about. If she truly overcame an eating disorder (and I'm so sure she didn't just replace one with another) your choice may in fact be a trigger to her.

That being said, You don't need that negativity in your life. This choice has nothing to do with her and everything to do with you. YOU made the choice that was best for you, so don't let others get you down. Find Positive friends that accept you for you and not because of what you weigh. Feel free to add me as a friend.

Edited June 12, 2014 by pjpanda

[JawaGal42 17]

This is someone whose own sense of identity and self-worth is threatened by your very personal decisions to have WLS. She's toxic. Please, Celebrate your freedom from this person.

[Travelmego 235]

By the way - one of her titles is RICH in hypocrisy: "Choosing self-preservation and kindness over friends..."

By her being a mean, two faced, backstabbing witch all over the place?

I think you should take the advice and choose self- preservation and kindness over 'friends' too. Preserve your health with people who are kind and support you and toss her aside.

Edited June 12, 2014 by Travelmego