Apparently I am a bit strange in that I don't want my family hanging out after I have surgery. My boyfriend is mad at me because I told him that he can come for the surgery and afterwards I want him to go home and care for my furbabies. I am the type of person that if I'm in pain or sick I just want to be left alone and I have a habit of being a complete b*tch after anesthesia. (I don't mean to be...). I don't want my family to see me all gassy and doped up on pain meds, nor do I want them in the room when they are checking incisions and whatnot. Plus I feel like he will be better off at home if I'm getting up every two hours to walk. I'm not trying to be mean or insensitive but I had a stereo-tactic breast biopsy done in 2011 and I refused to allow anyone to go (not for lack of their trying). I drove myself there, drove myself home and cried afterwards only because I couldn't go into Wal-Mart before going home because I bled on my favorite shirt haha. When I brought that up, he states it was different because it was outpatient and I was awake the whole time which was still traumatizing after I dropped my boob through a hole in an elevated table and saw the size of the ummm...extraction tool(?) they were using. Am I being unreasonable? We've had this same conversation a couple times and each time he acts like he hasn't heard a word that I've said. Maybe security can kick him out? Lol...KIDDING! Kinda...

I haven't had my surgery yet but I don't think I could keep my family away if I wanted to. We are a close family and I'm the youngest at 52. Each of my sisters have indicated that they will be at the hospital as well as some friends. I'm ok with that as long as they don't expect me to entertain them.

This-family was there but I laid in the hospital bed in pain and cranky- after they saw how cranky I was they stopped trying to talk to me and sat there for hours talking to each other-it seemed to give them comfort just being in the room , we have to remember loved ones are worried about the outcome as well and being there reassures them

The aforementioned boyfriend won't be a problem now, but my mom is now asking, "Is your dad staying? Is grandma staying?" I think she's fishing for the invite??

Uh oh! Sorry to hear that! And that's funny, you can detect when they're trying to get included lol. I've not told a lot of ppl about mine but if those that do know want to come, I'm fine with that. I may tell more ppl as I get closer to surgery time, but now I'm being picky and cautious.

I get that. I've decided that I don't mind if my mom or dad stay, just not together because that would be awkward since they annoy each other lol.

I know they all mean well. I've just always been incredibly independent and have a hard time with others worrying. Maybe if they are there they will worry less? Who knows. I'll have to see how I feel closer to surgery. Considering the waves of emotion I've gone through (excitement, fear, confusion, more excitement), I'm sure I'll change my mind ten more times between now and then lol.