Hi ladies I just joined this great site recently and love how friendly you all are :-) thank you.

I see so many women saying they can't wait to be thinner so they can wear cute or sexy clothes, underwear and lingerie, and not feel too big or unattractive for sex, or other activities we don't want to do until we won't be seen while we are imperfect like yard work or going to the beach.

Don't wait! Just do it now!! Sexy clothes come in all sizes, and if you can physically do something, don't wait to be perfect. The physical activity can only help us reach our goals ... and horrible thought but what if we are never "perfect"? Do you really want to miss out on great sex and pleasing your partner and wearing a pretty summer dress, etc? No!! I want to enjoy all those things NOW! Except I'm single so I'm counting on all you ladies who aren't single to take one for the team and have sex with your man lol

Now of course I'm not going to invest in any new clothing as I am trying to lose weight before my surgery this summer but I'm just saddened by all the gals who say they don't feel sexy or worthy ... Love you all and yes you're sexy and your man loves you and if a person doesn't wanna see our arms and bottoms jiggling they can look away

Amen!! The "perfect" body may never come. A few more pounds to go, loose skin, bat wings, chipped toenail polish, a bad hair day.

Enjoy the changes in your body as they come!! I wasted enough years being fat, I'm certainly not going to waste more while I am waiting to be "thin".

People will never remember at a party or gathering that your skin sagged, they will remember you if you are smiling, friendly and gracious. My skin is very saggy now, and at 67 I was looking in the mirror in my bathing suit from behind yesterday, and giggled at the thought of going in a surgeon's office and saying I want a Brazilian Butt Lift and seeing his reaction! NOT! My husband whistles everytime I strut out in something new and I am loving it. Happiness is truly within.

Well said - Happiness IS truly within.

the dirty little secret that somehow obese people don't seem to get is that you are never ever ever perfect looking. There is ALWAYS someone prettier, thinner, nicer hair, better skin, longer legs... whatever... Live and love the life ya got and enjoy it even while striving to make it better!