Hey everyone. So this is my first post here. I called the bariatric center close to my house and have then my insurance info and I was told the next day that my surgery would be covered 100%. I have my New Patient seminar on Tuesday. I saw my PCP yesterday and told him about my choice of the surgery and he thought it was a great idea. My BMI is 40.0 and I was recently diagnosed with type 2 diabetes. I told my family about getting the sleeve and they've been very supportive about it.

Now, my boyfriend on the other hand, he doesn't like the idea of the surgery one bit. He thinks it's cheating and a shortcut and that I'm just being lazy. I've tried explaining to him that the sleeve could save my life. Then he expresses concern because anything can happen while under anesthesia. I understand where he's coming from. He actually told me last week that if I get the surgery he'll break up with me. Today equals 13 months since we've been together.

I've tried explaining to him the benefits of the surgery but I just don't know what else to say to him to get him on board. When I told him about the seminar on Tuesday, he made a face and got very serious but didn't argue with me about it.

Has anyone been through something similar with a spouse/ bf or gf? Any tips you have for me? I'm excited about my weight loss journey and I love seeing everybody's before and after pics. I can't wait to join you guys on this rollercoaster of bariatric surgery.

Chad

Chad. Everyone has given you some great advice. All I want to say to you is you must love yourself first. Having this surgery is not easy at all. So do not stress yourself about being lazy. If you and your boyfriend are meant to be then he will come around. He sounds like he has some insecurities that he needs to deal with. Good luck to you.

Chad, I asked my husband to read some of these forums on Bariatric Pal - the good, bad and the ugly. Plus I showed him that I had done my research and had the medical test ,nutritionist, GP, surgeon and psychiatrist review. I told him that I wanted him to read up on what I had researched because I planned on going to through with the surgery regardless because it has been my life that was at risk and I was no longer willing to stand by and let that happen any longer. I wanted him to be part of this monumental decision that I had made but that regardless I was booked for surgery and wasn't planning on cancelling. To my surprise, he actually did read through the forums and came away with more knowledge and a supportive view point. That was at the beginning of May. I had surgery on May 14th and we both couldn't be happier!