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I actually like it. However I like this one better:

https://graph.facebook.com/myfavoriterun/photos/a.335791649823968.74871.334740213262445/575152615887869/?type=1

I find it inspiring. It boosts my confidence.

[for some reason the link doesn't seem to work for me, will try to fix it from my home computer when I get there]

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I had read that same article last week on line. The writer may have wanted to come off as non-condescending but I feel he was very much so. For him to assume what the runner was thinking, whether they be overweight or not is a bit presumptuous on his part. When we see someone running on the track that is thin and normal weight, is it okay to think and feel obnoxious things about them and then put it into writing? I don't think so. This writer is just looking for support in judging others and I'm not buying it. We don't need to be called "fatty" or anything else. We have names and we are doing the best we can with what we have. I prefer an article that is more positive and uplifting and shows support for those persons that have struggles with health and weight. But hey, that's just me.

Amen! I just read it, and it rubbed me wrong as well. The guy sounds like a total A-hole. I can't sit and think into what he meant or where he was coming from. At face value, it's offensive at best.

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I'm not insulted by my 6 year old granddaughter who told me (around my starting point) that I had a fat little belly just like Santa Claus or my old grandma that told me (before I was even overweight but felt I was) that I had a good figure because I had wide birthing hips.

Sometimes I think people mean well, but don't know how to express themselves. I hope thats the case. Even knowing where the subject has been, I still find its easy to slip into that judgemental mode. I work constantly on not being so quick to assume that everyone that is riding in wheelchair basket at Walmart who is morbidly obese is that way because they choose to ride in the carts and not walk. I tore my miniscus about 2 years ago and though it killed me to walk, I refused to ride in the cart because I felt people would judge me cuz I was overweight.

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Not judge mental at all. He/she said what we all look like when we are running. I was not offended by it I personally enjoyed it and chuckled at it.

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I'm thinking about doing a Zumba class and asked a friend who takes it what it's like, etc. This friend is not heavy or thin. I know she loves food, cooking, etc., but she's not coming from a place of food and body issues. So when I asked her, somewhat glibly, if I would be the fattest person in the class she was shocked. "We don't look at each other like that," she said. "We don't judge." I felt like such a jerk! Guess I need to stop walking into a room and noticing people's sizes, which of course is because I have felt so judged for my weight over the years. Eeeek!

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I'm thinking about doing a Zumba class and asked a friend who takes it what it's like, etc. This friend is not heavy or thin. I know she loves food, cooking, etc., but she's not coming from a place of food and body issues. So when I asked her, somewhat glibly, if I would be the fattest person in the class she was shocked. "We don't look at each other like that," she said. "We don't judge." I felt like such a jerk! Guess I need to stop walking into a room and noticing people's sizes, which of course is because I have felt so judged for my weight over the years. Eeeek!

I've had my Zumba friends say that exact thing to me and I wonder if we, as obese people, do judge other by their weight and size. Maybe this is why we believe everyone else is judging us.....except for those that are openly a-holes about "fatties." Just my thoughts after reading your post!

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Can't believe all this negativity.

I too thought it was a letter to herself and found it very inspirational.

Glass half full people

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To the skinny running around the track You know nothing of how I came to this place Of aching joints, embarrassment and self defeat I'm trying to survive while you run your 6 minute mile It's not about midnight Snacks, Cookies and cake It's about a little girl who learned early She was alone, unprotected, vulnerable Blamed herself for the abuse she suffered I'm not here for you to judge or make assumptions About how I became a fatty, I don't need your approval As you pass me, an encouraging word would be ok Cause with every painful step I want to quit So don't judge me at the track, grocery store or diner Don't judge me at the gym, park or pool Don judge me anywhere I go, skinny You run your life, I'll run mine, one mile at a time

That is awesome! Love it!

How about "Hey judgemental bitch, I hate to tell you this, but I used to be you. So pat yourself on the back for being so cool as to praise my fat ass for working out, but remember you are one car accident, one fall, one major trauma away from being me.

The sad thing is I can lose the weight but you will probably always be an as$."

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