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Self Sabotage...WTH?

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PrettyThick1    1,860

PrettyThick1
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Yesterday I was 1 lb. from my goal...guess what I did? Went to DQ and had a medium turtle blizzard with extra pecans and chocolate...chunky style. LOL My daughter made a great grade on a test and I hadn't rewarded her with treats in a very long time and we went for it! Welp, I guess I've officially put off my goal day for a few more days. Drats! What was I thinking? They DO sell smoothies afterall!

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HealthyNewMe    1,935

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Well, yesterday is over... You did that.... You ate that..... But the day is over. One day, one dessert, one bad choice...... But, it's over!!!! Today is a whole new day. You are still on your way to that goal and then to MAINTENANCE !!!!!!

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JustDoIt130    369

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I do this to myself as well- as Scarlett O'Hara says, "after all, tomorrow is another day!" I am so used to using food for rewards, comfort, to alleviate boredom or loneliness- it's a hard habit to break (cue the Chicago song).

You're practically to maintenance- and I believe that with maintenance will come selected "treats." Just eat right and exercise today!

Nicki

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Bandista    7,466

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Don't beat yourself up -- a relaxed, easy relationship with food is the real goal, being at peace with eating and embracing a healthy lifestyle. You are doing beautifully! There is no being on or off a diet anymore. There is only being present in your body and noticing what is going on. You're doing that! I'd say that is a resounding success.

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lisacaron    5,075

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Come on now girl was that DQ 3200 calories? I can't imagine you gained any weight! Enjoy the good grade, don't spoil it for yourself or your daughter. Though next time, (and I hope there are many more next times!!) maybe something other then a food reward, simply because it's a path that's not good for her or you anymore.

For me it has been hard to break that habit of using food as a reward or comfort, I wish it had never started to begin with...but I grew up in a big Italian family all they did was feed you for everything, and when I was a kid I was skinny skinny so they tried to feed me extra!

GOAL GOAL GOAL chanting for you and the USA Hockey team today!!!

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PuraVida37    715

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I've done that many times before in the past. Why? Why do we do that? It's like running the entire marathon and giving up 5 feet before the finish line. What is it in us that makes us self sabatoge?

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☠carolinagirl☠    18,722

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you didnt do anything wrong

you enjoyed some ice cream with your daughter.

sounds like you had a nice time....

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HotButterFly    981

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I really don't consider that "self sabotage". Give yourself a break.

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gowalking    10,790

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You've already reached goal. The number on the scale is truly of no importance. And CG is right..you had a nice time with your daughter...no harm in that.

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KateB    63

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You've done so well. Tomorrow is another day. Did you enjoy it? Good. It isn't the best choice but we've all done it at one time or another. I don't see it as a big deal. It's a far cry from what we could put away before.

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B-52    7,113

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This is a lifestyle!!!! I know plenty of thin-fit people who eat ice cream, along with other things dieters cringe at.....I have sundaes all the time, just not every day, or numerous times a day...had a large cherry vanilla with crushed nuts, coconut, and whipped cream last night....

I wasn't struck by lightning or the earth didn't swallow me up....

Once my body reached It's goal, I have not lost or gained any additional weight for 2 years now....other than the up and down variations within the same 5 lbs.....and I am no longer bound by all those dieter's rules...just the rules needed to live with the band.

But then...this is just about me and my life, not everyone elses....people have different needs..

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PrettyThick1    1,860

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B-52, did you get an adjustment once you reached your goal? I'm wondering what to do and I'm getting conflicting advice - some say leave it alone, you'll bottom out... others say get a tiny unfill (.25). What did you do?

This is a lifestyle!!!! I know plenty of thin-fit people who eat ice cream, along with other things dieters cringe at.....I have sundaes all the time, just not every day, or numerous times a day...had a large cherry vanilla with crushed nuts, coconut, and whipped cream last night....

I wasn't struck by lightning or the earth didn't swallow me up....

Once my body reached It's goal, I have not lost or gained any additional weight for 2 years now....other than the up and down variations within the same 5 lbs.....and I am no longer bound by all those dieter's rules...just the rules needed to live with the band.

But then...this is just about me and my life, not everyone elses....people have different needs..

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SandyM    1,956

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I believe you'll level off if you don't, add more calories

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