Soooooo.... Okay so no one ever said to me I was fat before, but I knew it and so did everyone else. But now I've been faced with people that are like "OMG! You're too skinny! You need to stop losing weight". Now I realize I've lost a little too much, and the dr has assured me this is normal. But I'm just wondering where people get off? Why do they think it's appropriate to tell me I'm too skinny, yet thought it was inappropriate to tell me I was fat?! Especially those people who aren't in my close circle of friends! My close friends are so encouraging. And I am so thankful for them, but I'm seriously sick of the others who think they have the right to offer their opinions, when they don't! Grrrrrrr!!! Okay just had to vent.

I'm by no means "small".... but, my sister-in-law told me at Christmas that I needed to watch it and not get too thin. I mean, really? I weigh 246 pounds...more than a lot of you folks are before your surgery. Granted, I was 331 when I started this process and had been 351 at my highest weight over the last few years. I know that she didn't mean it in a negative way. I'm the smallest that I have been in nearly 30 years and she's only been on the scene for about 15 years. She's never seen me this "small". It's a drastic change and we have to realize that as difficult as it is for us to accept what we see in the mirror as we lose the weight, our family and friends are sometimes struggling with their visual impressions of us too. Other friends say that I'm "melting" or looking so "thin". Well great!!! thanks!!! I'm no seeing it like that, but hey, i didn't ever REALLY see my fat suit as big as it was either! lol

I will be 55 in a few months and have been overweight all of my adult life. I have set my goal at 199. My goal is to be in ONEderland when this is over. perhaps I'll go beyond that, but my body will let me know when to stop. With my age and length of time in my "fat suit", I don't want to look OLD and saggy. If I stay in the upper range, that should help prevent that from happening, or at least limit the damage. I don't care to be "skinny", just healthy and I am feeling so much better now and so much more mobile that I have succeeded in that goal already! continued success to everyone!

Go for it Lornadoone, please yourself and not others.

I cant wait for someone to say that to me! really. that said, what gives anybody the right to comment on someone's size unless you are doing an intervention on someone weighing 79#. I have a few months to think up a couple snappy comebacks if and when I get there. love sara

I think we need to have a thick skin on this one to be honest... I think they get a type of dismorphia - they have always seen me as obese (or at least very overwieight) so they were genuinely worried about me.

What a great point!

My original point was.... No one thinks it's appropriate to tell someone they're too fat, so why do they think it's okay to tell someone they're too skinny. Unless you're my husband, mom or best friend, keep your opinions to yourself!! Feeling better now

I'm glad someone posted about this because I've been having similar issues. I think people are so used to seeing us overweight that it becomes "normal". Then, when we start ti lose weight and are actually a healthy weight we look super skinny/sickly because we're so far from what they got used to.

I hate when people ask how much more weight do i plan to lose and tell me that I'm wasting away. I am 5'6 and have a medium frame. At my heaviest i weighed 250lbs, but mostly held steady around 238 - 245ish. I wore a size 20/22. Now i am about 145lbs and I wear a size 6.

That is NOT too skinny. I also wear a 36D cup and have thighs (no thigh gap even after losing nearly 100lbs) and curves.