Eating Jealousy

[Mocha2871 182]

Ok so I have been doing really good since my surgery down 54.4 pounds. I still can't eat a lot in one sitting but still trying to get use to it. But here is where my jealousy comes in I want to eat like everyone else. I was at my cousins house and she made this meal and it was tuna on a croissant, tuna, and a Caesar salad which all looked so good. Everyone was really enjoying the food but I felt like I was just going through the motions by just eating a little tuna because that's all I can hold at a time. But to watch others really enjoy their food makes me jealous. I don't really enjoy food that much anymore. It looks good but just does not do it for me due to I get full before I can really enjoy the taste of it. Does anyone have this same feeling?

[TheNewSusie 471]

Honestly, when I made my decision to be sleeved, I went through these questions myself, how would I act about eating in front of others while I pick and choose the healthiest option. Once I seen the results, I never thought twice about my decision. Yeah it gets hard but I would never want it any other way. I'm now a size 4-6 and down 92 pounds. Love my sleeve. Keep striving and soon you will learn to eat to live not live to eat ????.

[PdxMan 4,292]

From my experience reading here, I don't think a single person doesn't go through what you are going through at some point. But, to be honest with you, you are still early in your sleeved life. There will come a time when you are able to eat anything albeit in smaller quantities. I have found that I enjoy the fact that I don't have to eat the large quantities I see other people eat. I smile at the fact that I can feel fully sated with the portion that I do enjoy. It took some time and some personal exploration as to why I mourned the fact I could not abuse food the way I used to, but, for me, I did come to a new relationship with food and value this newfound relationship.

You may actually find you yearn for these days when you didn't enjoy food Now is the time to develop new eating habits as you will learn how to eat around you sleeve and then you truly are on your own.

[newat52 1,612]

My opinion is that what you are feeling right now is pretty normal. It takes awhile. You have only been eating regular foods for a couple months. It was hard then. But hang in there, you will get to the point where it won't bother you in the least. You'll be able to eat most anything but you won't want a bunch of it and you will enjoy your food even more.

I find for myself, I can eat anything but don't really want to eat a lot. I still love to eat and every once in a while I wish I could eat more but those episodes are fewer and further between.

Hang in there, it does get easier. One of the motivations for me is I wake up every morning and before I get out of bed, I for lack of a better word, start feeling myself up! lol! I feel hip bones, curves, not bulges. Who knew I had hip bones? I even feel my boobies, they are getting smaller by the day! ( I want small ones) The changes in my body are enough to bound me out of bed and do my best to make good decisions!

Sorry if the feeling myself up is TMI but I would bet just about anything I'm not the only sleeved who does that.

[scarlet333 386]

Absolutely agree with the other posters. It's so nice to eat a normal size portion of whatever I want, not the disgustingly huge portions I used to polish off. Also, try slowing down a bit when eating something you really want to savor. You may be able to get in an extra bight or two. The feeling of not being obese "outweighs" the other small sacrifices.

[NMJG 1,266]

Pretty normal, kiddo. It gets better over time, and you'll quickly appreciate your limitations, but it is hard the first 6 months. I got to the point where I didn't even want to eat since I could get so little down. The other posters' advice about slowing down, etc. does help. Chin up, you'll get through this period.

[Teachamy 1,042]

I get sleeved in 9 days. ( ) Lately, I have been looking at the eating habits of the thin people at work. Their choices are healthier, their portions are small, and they seem fine. Everyone who eats too much is obese, like me. I may feel the way you do once I am sleeved, I don't know. But the next time you are eating at work, at a restaurant, or even with family, know that you are eating like a thin person, because that is what you are becoming!

All my best!

Amy

[MASSGUY 51]

As teachamy said, "Lately, I have been looking at the eating habits of the thin people at work. Their choices are healthier, their portions are small, and they seem fine."

I did this at Thanksging dinner when we went out to eat. I wasn't on a pre-op, but had to weigh in pre surgery at a certain weight so I ate light. Now I know Thanksgiving is an "eating" holiday, but I couldn't believe all the food. I don't want to eat like that again.

Edited December 10, 2013 by MASSGUY

[Mocha2871 182]

I appreciate everyone's comments and assistance thank you. I don't want everyone to think I just want to eat large meals but just to complete a meal. I know it is paying off with the smaller portions and I know this is best for me. I just feel like I waste so much food because I can't complete anything and even in the small portions I can't complete it. I am not for saving food and going back to it because I lose the taste for it so I end up giving it away or throwing it away. I can't complete a weight watchers meal and I don't want it once it's cold. I think it's where the jealous bug comes in because even with my cousin who had the surgery she can complete one of those meals. It makes me feel like I am not eating enough and getting all the Proteins I should be getting. But I see the scale moving and my clothes getting bigger so I am doing something right but thank you all for you words of wisdom I will keep it all in mind as I continue on this journey.