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The Uncomfortable Truth....

Madam Reverie

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RJ'S/beginning    5,358

RJ'S/beginning
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You guys are nuts...truly nuts I tell you......If I wasn't a depressed person now..And getting my hit of Serotonin through meds....I would reconsider his remarks about getting it as a reward for eating... hmmmmm..Chocolate anyone..

My rehab Doc told me that if you are over 50 it is only a very slight chance that a person trades one addiction for another....So I guess if I am no longer addicted to food..Then I will be cured...Who are we kidding ...food glorious food.....gasping!!!!

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RJ'S/beginning    5,358

RJ'S/beginning
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Is he a so called doctor? He definitely isn't much of a so called writer. So...

That's right, lets verbally beat the stuffing out of him...lol

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No game    14,437

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ShitED are you saying I should of stayed fat 3 more years then lose the weight and not have to worry about crossover addictions!

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RJ'S/beginning    5,358

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peas pudding and saveloy's anyone?!

Memememememememememememe! :D

lol...Please sir can I have some more....

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RJ'S/beginning    5,358

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ShitED are you saying I should of stayed fat 3 more years then lose the weight and not have to worry about crossover addictions!

Yup that's what he said...so basically once I get this under wraps ...I,m free as the breeze and I'll do as I please, just bumming around!!!!!

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http://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/2464740-when-things-fall-apart-heart-advice-for-difficult-times

We are not alone. It is the human condition.

I humbly submit with this vulnerable heart-felt thread I think this book and these quotes harmonize with what most are saying. It may give comfort, It does to me sometimes.

My favorite quote:

“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don't really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It's just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy. (10)”
― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heartfelt Advice for Hard Times

I saw a lot of this quote below in reading this thread - seemed spot on.

“The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.”
― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heart Advice for Difficult Times

You all have courage and balls of steel....err, well, you get my meaning.

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RJ'S/beginning    5,358

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http://www.goodreads.com/work/quotes/2464740-when-things-fall-apart-heart-advice-for-difficult-times

We are not alone. It is the human condition.

I humbly submit with this vulnerable heart-felt thread I think this book and these quotes harmonize with what most are saying. It may give comfort, It does to me sometimes.

My favorite quote:

“We think that the point is to pass the test or overcome the problem, but the truth is that things don't really get solved. They come together and they fall apart. Then they come together again and fall apart again. It's just like that. The healing comes from letting there be room for all of this to happen: room for grief, for relief, for misery, for joy. (10)”

― Pema Chödrön, When Things Fall Apart: Heartfelt Advice for Hard Times

I agree..I think that food addiction will always be just under the surface, ready to rear its ugly head as soon as things are good or things are bad...which it is always one or the other..So it is a constant fight in life to control the addiction...Once an alcoholic always considered to be one ..Same as food addiction. Can't let your guard down for too long...:(

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Madam Reverie    2,958

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Yes, I am a girl and you've never seen bigger balls of steel! Mine are HUGE :D

Welcome to the party, Bearman!

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Madam Reverie    2,958

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I thought this one quite good...

“We don't set out to save the world; we set out to wonder how other people are doing and to reflect on how our actions affect other people's hearts.”

Who'da thunk it ;)

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bearman99    228

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With this thread I just became convinced this a forum my fucked up self can fit right in.

Thank you.

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Madam Reverie    2,958

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Or this one..

"“What happens with you when you begin to feel uneasy, unsettled, queasy? Notice the panic, notice when you instantly grab for something. (51)”

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Madam Reverie    2,958

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And the final BOOOOOOOM!!

“The most fundamental aggression to ourselves, the most fundamental harm we can do to ourselves, is to remain ignorant by not having the courage and the respect to look at ourselves honestly and gently.”

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
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