So I've been on my pre op medically supervised diet for 6 months. I have my surgery jan 8th 2014. Everytime I go see my nut I get these feeling that she just roles her eyes and doesn't believe in me. I am always doing something wrong in my food journals. She just doesn't come across very friendly. She says she doesn't mean to be offensive, but it's her job. Has anyone else had this feeling with their nut, doctors etc?...

They are suppose to help you not put you down I would just change, if you can with some one you are comfortable with.

I didn't "click" with the first NUT I met with. She was so snarky, she didn't seem compassionate. This was on the initial consult! She put out a 1/4 c. measuring cup and asked, "that's how much food you will get in the beginning, can you live with that?" I said, "I couldn't now, but maybe with 85% of my stomach cut out that won't be such a big deal. I don't know."

I quickly got rid of that team, including the doctor.

My doctor now is a NUT, so I don't have to see two different people and she's a lot nicer!

My nut comes with my surgeons bariactric surgery package. I have to use her unless I go somewhere else for my surgery. So I just have to suck it up.

She is my surgeons nut. I have to use her. It's included in my bariactric package.

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I absolutely understand where you are coming from. I am in the same boat. I have to do a 6 month monitored nutrition plan with my nutritionist. BEfore she told us she is lookin for some changes in our eating. Once a month I have to submit my food diary. My first food diary I submitted to her she chews me out. I felt so ashamed because I did begin to change my eating. Well the next month I was able to really be on my (a) game.

Just try to do your best! Best wishes!

I'm sorry, but I feel like I am reading a thread from the 1970s. Who doesn't know that shaming, embarrassing and judging overweight people really just has the opposite effect -- usually makes them eat more.

We're all adults, we know what to eat to be healthy. I dare say most of us long-term dieters have been to enough NUTs, dietitians, WW meetings and read enough diet books to be NUTs ourselves!

My NUT is there for help and support. She is a skinny triathlete, very young but totally professional. Probably never had a weight problem herself, but doesn't pass judgement. She went over the pre and post op diet phases, made suggestions and is there at every post op support group --to be supportive. If I have a question about a food or vitamin, I can call or email and she is very responsive.

If I choose not to follow the recommendations, well then that's on me.

I'm self pay so don't have to do the nutritionist thing, but I've seen three different NUT in the past. They were all supportive, but they never seemed to really **know** their stuff the way nurses and doctors do. I felt as though they were just giving rote responses parroted from a textbook somewhere, and their advice had all the depth of a Cosmo article (whoa, veggies are better snack choice than candy, no way!!!)

I'm sure there are fantastic NUT out there, but I felt like my gastroenterologist was more helpful. YMMV.