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Come on fluff... That is TERRIFIC news! I can't wait for my clothes to be too big. Ten days out and only one pound gone. I know it will happen...

You need to Celebrate your achievement! Woo hoo!

Ps. Try a consignment shop. Reasonable and should be dry cleaned and ready to wear!

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I am not sad about the achievement. I'm sad about having worn this dress twice and having to give it away.

Man, this is so strange. If you had asked me if I was attached to my clothes I would have given you a resounding no. I was wrong.

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Okay I have a confession. Really, more like a realization. My clothing purchasing behavior was out of control.

Not only did I have the clothes that I posted pics of, apparently I had at least another bed-full to try on and give away. And I still have clothes in my closet that fit from before.

No exaggeration, I have spent 2.5 hours having to try everything that was still left in my closet. Even with my husband putting all the clothes back on the hanger and someone else folding all the clothes to give away, it took us 2.5 hours. That's just for the ones I hadn't already taken out and photographed. They're still folding them. I was overheated so had to sit down for a minute. And I am hoping they don't realize that we haven't yet been through the my clothes hanging in my son's closet.

At the risk of sounding stupid, I knew I had a lot of clothes, but I had no idea how bad things were. My family kept trying to tell me I had a lot of clothes but I was like, whatever. Had NO idea how bad the problem was.

My husband is now fantasizing about what he will do with his share of our walk-in closet. He's standing in there, visualizing his shirts hanging up properly, and where he'll put his pants. It's pretty bad that he made do with one rack while I had about 5 of the six racks. Poor man. I told him he needs to claim half the closet back not only because it's fair, but it will keep natural controls on my buying too many clothes. When my side is full, I have to stop.

I didn't realize all the things I'd have to face when I had surgery. I thought it was just about eating less. You could have told me this until you were blue in the face, and I would not have known that when one addiction/maladaptive behavior stops, you realize how many OTHER maladaptive behaviors you took on, just to keep that one going. Kind of like telling one lie and then the others you tell to hide that lie...That's what this is like.

Honestly I'm a bit shaken. How could it have gotten this bad without my knowing?

is this happening to you? Are you finding out other things you did to compensate for the weight that you're now trying to change?

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I wont elaborate but you know it is!!! Quite therapeutic. ;)

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Okay I have a confession. Really, more like a realization. My clothing purchasing behavior was out of control. Not only did I have the clothes that I posted pics of, apparently I had at least another bed-full to try on and give away. And I still have clothes in my closet that fit from before. No exaggeration, I have spent 2.5 hours having to try everything that was still <strong><u>left</u></strong> in my closet. Even with my husband putting all the clothes back on the hanger and someone else folding all the clothes to give away, it took us 2.5 hours. That's just for the ones I hadn't already taken out and photographed. They're still folding them. I was overheated so had to sit down for a minute. And I am hoping they don't realize that we haven't yet been through the my clothes hanging in my son's closet. At the risk of sounding stupid, I knew I had a lot of clothes, but I had no idea how bad things were. My family kept trying to tell me I had a lot of clothes but I was like, whatever. Had NO idea how bad the problem was. My husband is now fantasizing about what he will do with his share of our walk-in closet. He's standing in there, visualizing his shirts hanging up properly, and where he'll put his pants. It's pretty bad that he made do with one rack while I had about 5 of the six racks. Poor man. I told him he needs to claim half the closet back not only because it's fair, but it will keep natural controls on my buying too many clothes. When my side is full, I have to stop. I didn't realize all the things I'd have to face when I had surgery. I thought it was just about eating less. You could have told me this until you were blue in the face, and I would not have known that when one addiction/maladaptive behavior stops, you realize how many OTHER maladaptive behaviors you took on, just to keep that one going. Kind of like telling one lie and then the others you tell to hide that lie...That's what this is like. Honestly I'm a bit shaken. How could it have gotten this bad without my knowing? is this happening to you? Are you finding out other things you did to compensate for the weight that you're now trying to change?

Yes, yes, YES. I was so unhappy with the way I looked I literally never, EVER told myself no. I'm glad I realized it, but am now paying for it. Literally and figuratively!

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Don't know about you but I had a TERRIBLE time finding clothes that fit and were cute. It seems like the bigger you get the more the stores think you should be wearing ugly clothes. So at least as you buy replacements you'll be able to find some REALLY cute stuff and with that knew body you'll love to wear them!

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Don't know about you but I had a TERRIBLE time finding clothes that fit and were cute. It seems like the bigger you get the more the stores think you should be wearing ugly clothes. So at least as you buy replacements you'll be able to find some REALLY cute stuff and with that knew body you'll love to wear them!

Pretty soon I'm going to have the reverse problem I guess, at least based on reading posts of those who are further along. Then, I will join them in freaking out about all the choices we get and how it's impossible to pick what we want. :P

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Yes, yes, YES. I was so unhappy with the way I looked I literally never, EVER told myself no. I'm glad I realized it, but am now paying for it. Literally and figuratively!

If I had ever penny I ever spent on diets, new clothes, more expensive clothes, different foods, throwing out the foods that my new-new diet didn't let me eat that my previous diet said I should, etc.----it would fund some very nice holidays for my family.

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Pretty soon I'm going to have the reverse problem I guess, at least based on reading posts of those who are further along. Then, I will join them in freaking out about all the choices we get and how it's impossible to pick what we want. :P

I had trouble even picking a store. It was overwhelming. I finally settled on Academy Sports....the poor man's REI.

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I had trouble even picking a store. It was overwhelming. I finally settled on Academy Sports....the poor man's REI.

I can relate to this. To make my work life easy, I wear black pants every day. Yes, I know, boring but simple. Black pants and either a sleeved blouse, or a tank top and suit jacket depending on how formal I need to be that day.

So now after the Big Cleanup of 2013, I have only one pair of black pants left. I need new black pants.

I have been dithering about where to get them from for the last 4 hours. I have no idea where to start.

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I can relate to this. To make my work life easy, I wear black pants every day. Yes, I know, boring but simple. Black pants and either a sleeved blouse, or a tank top and suit jacket depending on how formal I need to be that day.

So now after the Big Cleanup of 2013, I have only one pair of black pants left. I need new black pants.

I have been dithering about where to get them from for the last 4 hours. I have no idea where to start.

Me too - black pants every day of the week. Capris in the summer, long ones in the winter. Just makes life easier. But when I'm thin (IF... I haven't lost an ounce for a week :-() I am going to wear jeans. Oooh! Can't wait!

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I don't know where everyone lives but the cheaper places by me are Burlington coat factory, tj maxx; Marshall's ... Basically they buy leftovers of name brands and sell for less. I usually don't spend more than $10 for dress pants. They have all sorts but you have to go through .... Not all laid out like expensive stores.

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Last night my daughter took 3 pairs of my size 18 pants and got rid of them...I went nuts...They are way to big but they were mine and I loved them...It was hard for me to let them go...

Do I want to be a size 18 ...NO...so what was the issue...The issue is that I liked them a lot.....now I have size 15 pants and don't feel as comfortable in my skin wearing them.....First I'm too fat and can barely buy clothes at all..And now I am having trouble getting rid of the clothes as I drop sizes....So weird!!!!!!!!

I should Celebrate each new event in my life....good gracious!!!!!!!!

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What's really weird is that after getting rid of all those clothes and telling myself not to go crazy with clothes shopping again? I have to go clothes shopping. I have one pair of black pants left and this weekend, I need to get a couple more. Ugh.

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"I didn't realize all the things I'd have to face when I had surgery. I thought it was just about eating less. You could have told me this until you were blue in the face, and I would not have known that when one addiction/maladaptive behavior stops, you realize how many OTHER maladaptive behaviors you took on, just to keep that one going. Kind of like telling one lie and then the others you tell to hide that lie...That's what this is like. "

Yes, a thousand times yes. I am starting to look around my house and see what I am calling my "f*&k it" piles. Clothes that need to be donated. Paperwork that needs to be filed. I was at an event last night and there were a few glitches (nothing major, no one knew why) that I KNOW have exactly to do with the fact that my desk is a mess. I kind of don't know how I feel about this. I am looking around and there's just so much work I have to do. It's overwhelming.

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