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I'm online a lot and people seem to feel that the anonymity if the online forum allows them to say anything...it's a problem, I think, with this firm of " communication". Also, people struggle with the written word, and things can be misinterpreted since we don't have the benefit if body language and tone if voice. And of course, some people just like stirring up trouble. Ignore it or block them as DL suggested. There's too much good stuff in here, I feel, to be bothered by a few negative comments.

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I'm online a lot and people seem to feel that the anonymity if the online forum allows them to say anything...it's a problem, I think, with this firm of " communication". Also, people struggle with the written word, and things can be misinterpreted since we don't have the benefit if body language and tone if voice. And of course, some people just like stirring up trouble. Ignore it or block them as DL suggested. There's too much good stuff in here, I feel, to be bothered by a few negative comments.

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I'm online a lot and people seem to feel that the anonymity of the online forum allows them to say anything...it's a problem, I think, with this firm of " communication". Also, people struggle with the written word, and things can be misinterpreted since we don't have the benefit if body language and tone if voice. And of course, some people just like stirring up trouble. Ignore it or block them as DL suggested. There's toi much good stuff in here, I feel, to be bothered by a few negative comments.

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Don't leave Mz Shay! I love reading your posts! Hope u really can block the negative posters. If not' date=' block them from your mind. Most of us are positive, just like you:-)[/quote']

Thanks I'm not going anywhere but I won't be on here as much its a few on here that talk really crazy but if I see there name I don't even read what they have to say I don't have time for drama and know it alls

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Thanks I'm not going anywhere but I won't be on here as much its a few on here that talk really crazy but if I see there name I don't even read what they have to say I don't have time for drama and know it alls Mz Shay

Mzshay - how are you feeling? Are you able to keep food down better?

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Mzshay - how are you feeling? Are you able to keep food down better?

I'm doing much better I'm trying different things until I get it right my pouch like certain things one day then the next day it doesn't

Mz Shay

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I hear you, Mz Shay. WLS community folks I've always thought to be some of the kindest and caring. However, lately I have seen some real self righteous and rude stuff said. Sometimes I wonder if they are actually trolls. But you know what I do when I see a pattern of someone posting like that? I report them to the admin. They can take their attitude somewhere else!

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I hear you' date=' Mz Shay. WLS community folks I've always thought to be some of the kindest and caring. However, lately I have seen some real self righteous and rude stuff said. Sometimes I wonder if they are actually trolls. But you know what I do when I see a pattern of someone posting like that? I report them to the admin. They can take their attitude somewhere else![/quote']

Trolls lol its a few I have notice but I don't read or respond to nothing that they day but its more positive on here than negative

Mz Shay

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I'm doing much better I'm trying different things until I get it right my pouch like certain things one day then the next day it doesn't Mz Shay

Pouch can be so fickle sometimes. Hang in there!

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"Our words are seeds planted in other People's Lives!"

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The printed word can sometimes be misunderstood because' date=' unlike when we talk in person, you can't hear the 'tone' of the words. You can't tell if someone is being funny, sarcastic, angry, or happy. Some people don't have the vocabulary to say what they really mean and use words or phrases that mean something else entirely, completely unintentionally. We have to be understanding and overlook these types of things that may be purely innocent.

Some people 'tell it like it is', or think they do. What it really is, is an opinion. Opinions are just that - opinions. It's what a person thinks and it isn't always (maybe even RARELY) based on fact. Opinions are just one person's perception of a thing. Sometimes the person who 'tells it like it is' can make you see something in a way you didn't consider before. It can be a good thing.

And then there are 'trolls'. These are people who like to stir up trouble by deliberately making comments that offend or anger others. Then they sit back and watch the sparks fly. One board that I belonged to was almost destroyed by 'trolls' making offensive comments in a 'hit and run' fashion. The best defense against 'trolls' is to ignore them. They want a reaction - don't give them one.

A lot of people here genuinely want to help by sharing their experiences, offering encouragement, and celebrating successes (their own and yours). At times we seek advice and sometimes sympathy from others who have already gone through things that we find bewildering. It's comforting to know things will improve and get tips to cope with our problems.

What all of the above have in common is that they are all comments made by people we have never met and likely never will. Whether positive or negative, you are the one who chooses what to read and when/if to respond. Just ignore what you don't like and enjoy the rest. You don't need to abandon the whole board. There is WAY more positive here than negative! :-)[/quote']

Wow... I love this advise.. Terry You couldnt write it any better :) is just perfect to the point.. thanks for those words that make my day better even knowing they were not for me.. But is totally true and motivating. Blessings :)

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Wow... I love this advise.. Terry You couldnt write it any better :) is just perfect to the point.. thanks for those words that make my day better even knowing they were not for me.. But is totally true and motivating. Blessings :)

Your welcome! And thanks for the compliment! :-)

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The printed word can sometimes be misunderstood because' date=' unlike when we talk in person, you can't hear the 'tone' of the words. You can't tell if someone is being funny, sarcastic, angry, or happy. Some people don't have the vocabulary to say what they really mean and use words or phrases that mean something else entirely, completely unintentionally. We have to be understanding and overlook these types of things that may be purely innocent.

Some people 'tell it like it is', or think they do. What it really is, is an opinion. Opinions are just that - opinions. It's what a person thinks and it isn't always (maybe even RARELY) based on fact. Opinions are just one person's perception of a thing. Sometimes the person who 'tells it like it is' can make you see something in a way you didn't consider before. It can be a good thing.

And then there are 'trolls'. These are people who like to stir up trouble by deliberately making comments that offend or anger others. Then they sit back and watch the sparks fly. One board that I belonged to was almost destroyed by 'trolls' making offensive comments in a 'hit and run' fashion. The best defense against 'trolls' is to ignore them. They want a reaction - don't give them one.

A lot of people here genuinely want to help by sharing their experiences, offering encouragement, and celebrating successes (their own and yours). At times we seek advice and sometimes sympathy from others who have already gone through things that we find bewildering. It's comforting to know things will improve and get tips to cope with our problems.

What all of the above have in common is that they are all comments made by people we have never met and likely never will. Whether positive or negative, you are the one who chooses what to read and when/if to respond. Just ignore what you don't like and enjoy the rest. You don't need to abandon the whole board. There is WAY more positive here than negative! :-)[/quote']

Very well said!! The "tell it like it is" attitude is what I see most often. These people say what we may sometime "think" about saying but have more morals and common courtesy to actually say. Everyone is entitled to their opinion. I used to speak my mind but now just stay out of it. I even got called negative and that I never say anything nice on here. This couldnt be farther from the truth but just shows how different our perceptions can be. Dont leave!

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No need to throw F bombs though.

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No need to throw F bombs though.

Well I did didn't need yo feedback you didn't have to respond at all

Mz Shay

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