Pressure NOT to be sleeved

[AprilS 25]

We are both "of age" (I a little more so than you). So we should do it for our own sakes. My husband has gone to all the meetings with me, and though he was a skeptic st first is now on board. Good luck to us both!!

My husband is very supportive also. My parents have never liked the idea of it. I've talked about it a lot through the years. My mom is a yoyo weight watcher. I have been in the past too.

[lswelk 22]

My husband is very supportive also. My parents have never liked the idea of it. I've talked about it a lot through the years. My mom is a yoyo weight watcher. I have been in the past too.

That's exactly it. I have yoyo'd all my life. This is a tool that is the best hope we have of not gaining it back. I know it's not a panacea. It's just a tool. But a great tool. Glad your husband is supportive. All best.

[SKCUNNINGHAM 298]

I would not let them deter your decision, you are an adult and it is up to you.

You might also gently remind them that people who love each other stand by and are supportive of each other, even when someone is making a decision the other party doesn't approve of. I'm sure you could pull a few examples of where you stood by them even though you didn't like the choices they were making.

Best of luck to you.

[MNMema 82]

Stick to your guns!!! Sounds crazy but, it's a tough love kind of decision!! You love them to death, but when it comes to your body, well, it is your body!!!! I also am at the age where I can't wait any longer. I turn 60 next September and want to look half way good!!! I'm 5' .5" and started at 226, BMI of 43.4. Some of the people I work with are nay sayers. I listen, but that's all I do. My husband and kids are a great support system. My hubby goes with me to my appts. and is curious about the whole process. We will all be here to support you no matter what your family or anyone says. Good luck to you and as someone else said, be strong!

[lswelk 22]

I would not let them deter your decision' date=' you are an adult and it is up to you.

You might also gently remind them that people who love each other stand by and are supportive of each other, even when someone is making a decision the other party doesn't approve of. I'm sure you could pull a few examples of where you stood by them even though you didn't like the choices they were making.

Best of luck to you.[/quote']

Thanks so much for sharing your TERRIFIC wisdom. I will take this to heart and practice standing my ground in a loving way.

[lswelk 22]

Stick to your guns!!! Sounds crazy but' date=' it's a tough love kind of decision!! You love them to death, but when it comes to your body, well, it is your body!!!! I also am at the age where I can't wait any longer. I turn 60 next September and want to look half way good!!! I'm 5' .5" and started at 226, BMI of 43.4. Some of the people I work with are nay sayers. I listen, but that's all I do. My husband and kids are a great support system. My hubby goes with me to my appts. and is curious about the whole process. We will all be here to support you no matter what your family or anyone says. Good luck to you and as someone else said, be strong![/quote']

Oh, yes. You are right. It is tough love. I can never expect universal approval and it is MY body. It's strange to get older, and wake up to the fact of finite nature of the rest of your life. How did I get to this age already? I want to take ahold of my future, as long or short as it may.be. Thanks so much for your encouraging message.

[Chimera 644]

You could always bring up the statistics (this is what sealed the deal for my husband and myself - we both had vsg) - if you have a BMI over 40, 100lbs or more to lose your chances of keeping it off for 5+ years is loooooow - something around 2-3%. I am certain all of us are deeply familiar with the diet/exercise losing and gaining rollercoaster. The sleeve as a tool to get our health under control is the best thing we have ever done for ourselves - we are both about 1 year and a half out and are doing great! finally we can manage our weight over the long haul - all of our co-morbidities are gone

[Mammecan 43]

Do it for you!!! I am still pre-op but I have been close to 200 lbs almost all my life & at 57....I decided it was time for me...my only reget will be not doing it at an early age...Good Luck...

[lswelk 22]

You could always bring up the statistics (this is what sealed the deal for my husband and myself - we both had vsg) - if you have a BMI over 40' date=' 100lbs or more to lose your chances of keeping it off for 5+ years is loooooow - something around 2-3%. I am certain all of us are deeply familiar with the diet/exercise losing and gaining rollercoaster. The sleeve as a tool to get our health under control is the best thing we have ever done for ourselves - we are both about 1 year and a half out and are doing great! finally we can manage our weight over the long haul - all of our co-morbidities are gone <img src='http://www.bariatricpal.com/public/style_emoticons/<#EMO_DIR#>/smile.png' class='bbc_emoticon' alt='' />[/quote']

Chimera. What a wonderful story. Yes those statistics are what turned me into a believer. I intuitively knew theyust be correct based on my experience. Am going to make an inspiration poster and will put that STAT right smack Dan in the center if the poster as that is key for me. VSG is just a tool, but the best tool!! Thanks!!!

[lswelk 22]

Do it for you!!! I am still pre-op but I have been close to 200 lbs almost all my life & at 57....I decided it was time for me...my only reget will be not doing it at an early age...Good Luck...

Mammecan. Thanks so much for your note. Yes, let's hold virtual hands and find a new us as we both go through this life changing experience. It's time!!

[HoosierGirl 780]

I'm pretty passionate about this subject...apologies if this sounds too strong. BUT....I had much the same reaction from my parents. Wild and unplaced concern for such a "radical" decision...have I really thought it through...you are strong willed, just get ahold of your weight problem...blah blah blah.

Are your daughters skinny? I know my parents aren't! Weight is a struggle for them too. So, I was really surprised they weren't supportive about me being pro-active to regain my health. I don't want to have a stroke like my Dad or need a pacemaker like my Mom. I wanted to yell at them, "Do you SEE yourselves?" I was flabbergasted that with all their weight related health issues they would have the guts to tell me I was making the WRONG decision!

You know, if I could have lost the weight on my own and keep it off, I probably would have done it sometime over the past 20 years. Do I think surgery is a drastic and final step? Yes...AND THAT IS THE POINT!

It is one thing to have concern for someone - especially if you aren't familiar with their surgery. But it's something very different to dissuade someone from a surgery that will prolong their life. Would you try to talk a breast cancer patient out of a mastectomy? No. Then why try to talk an obese person out of a surgical solution to their weight problem? Sheesh.

Stick to your guns and blaze your own trail. If your daughters are like my parents, they will want to have the surgery too because they watched YOU be successful.

Kudos to you for coming to get support here. Keep doing what you are doing. This surgery will change your life in ways you can't even imagine now. HUGS!

[unbesleevable1 420]

I've gotten to the point where I just laugh at people who think it's a bad idea. They don't get it unless they've struggled with weight. I just tell them I am so comfortable with this decision, and have thought about it for years. They are just hearing it, so it can be shocking at first. My parents weren't that happy when they first heard (I am 37), but they are totally supportive now. I am so close to my date!!

[AprilS 25]

You know, if I could have lost the weight on my own and keep it off, I probably would have done it sometime over the past 20 years. Do I think surgery is a drastic and final step? Yes...AND THAT IS THE POINT!

Best point ever!

[AprilS 25]

unbesleevable1,

We have the same surgery date!!

[lswelk 22]

I'm pretty passionate about this subject...apologies if this sounds too strong. BUT....I had much the same reaction from my parents. Wild and unplaced concern for such a "radical" decision...have I really thought it through...you are strong willed' date=' just get ahold of your weight problem...blah blah blah.

Are your daughters skinny? I know my parents aren't! Weight is a struggle for them too. So, I was really surprised they weren't supportive about me being pro-active to regain my health. I don't want to have a stroke like my Dad or need a pacemaker like my Mom. I wanted to yell at them, "Do you SEE yourselves?" I was flabbergasted that with all their weight related health issues they would have the guts to tell me I was making the WRONG decision!

You know, if I could have lost the weight on my own and keep it off, I probably would have done it sometime over the past 20 years. Do I think surgery is a drastic and final step? Yes...AND THAT IS THE POINT!

It is one thing to have concern for someone - especially if you aren't familiar with their surgery. But it's something very different to dissuade someone from a surgery that will prolong their life. Would you try to talk a breast cancer patient out of a mastectomy? No. Then why try to talk an obese person out of a surgical solution to their weight problem? Sheesh.

Stick to your guns and blaze your own trail. If your daughters are like my parents, they will want to have the surgery too because they watched YOU be successful.

Kudos to you for coming to get support here. Keep doing what you are doing. This surgery will change your life in ways you can't even imagine now. HUGS![/quote']

Hossiergirl: I love your passion. I agree totally with you. It is a life-death issue. My PCP thinks it's my only choice if I want to prolong my life. So, I am determined, especially after reading all the good posts like yours.