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so happy that i'm finally posting in the post-op section :)

question for everyone - some people at work know that i had this surgery but most don't. i don't necessarily want to tell people that i had the surgery as i know opinions will differ but i know some people will ask where i was the past two weeks. has anyone else been in a similar situation? what did you tell co-workers?

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I work at the hospital I am having my surgery at. Since one of my coworkers work in the wls dept she knew. Although due to HIPPA she couldn't say anything to others, I figured everyone would figure it out, so I told most of my coworkers. They have been super supportive. In fact I told my coworkers before I told most of my friends. I waited till the surgery was scheduled to tell everyone. I've heard some people say they were out for gallbladder surgery. It's a fib but it prevents from you having to tell your business if you're not wanting to.

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I had my gallbladder out........yes, that is the fib I told. If/when I do actually need it out I will use the "gall stones in the bile ducts" excuse. My cousin gave me that idea. Her surgery was two years ago and only a select few family members know.

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I have been pretty open about it, and I wasn't planning to initially. It has definitely been easier not to have to hide anything. I tell them I'm having surgery if it comes up, and go into more detail if they ask 'what kind?' I am really comfortable with this decision, and am more sure about it the closer it gets. I just find it too complicated and more stressful to feel like I have to hide something very real going on in my life. It's something you have to decide for yourself.

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I have been completely open since my surgery, I was scared but everyone has been so supportive and full of encouragement. I'm glad I did. My co workers barrage me with questions, I've had finds private message me and ask about the surgery. I think if you didn't have support this would be so much harder. But this is a decision only you can make. Good luck with it.

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I chose not to tell most coworkers. I said I was on vacation. If they asked more than that, i said something vague and then asked them something about themselves :) people love to talk about themselves, so it was an easy way to take attention off me! And because I see them evry day, and people are only just now noticing weight loss, so it is doubtful they will connect my weight loss with the vacay i took in May!

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My primary care physician suggested that I have wls due to my comorbidities. That's exactly what I'm going to tell people. How can they argue with me taking the advice of my physician?

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thanks everyone, such great advice as always!!

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