O my hubby comes home today and says...remember that lady I told you about that died? She had gastric bypass last year and had some kind of a leak. She had a stroke and died. Are you sure you still want to do this? ... Really exactly what I didn't need to hear.

Keep your chin up and think of all of the positive "side effects" of the sleeve. There are dangers in everything you do, this is about you and being the best you can be!

I'd kill my husband. There's risk with everything. Bypass is a lot more riskier than the sleeve.

He couldn't understand why I was upset. Really? Like this isn't the biggest thing on my mind

i just looked it up and a leak with bypass is muuuuccchhh more serious than a leak with sleeve. Also, much more common. 1 to 3 percent leakage with bypass and it is the most serious complication there is. Educate him and make sure he knows it's not the same thing.

Thank you. I appreciate it

Just like pregnancy, huh? People can't hold back from telling you horrendous, usually inaccurate, stories! The trouble is that you don't know what really happened, if the stroke even related to the bypass, so the story is useless except to undermine your confidence. Maybe time to review with him the positive reasons you are having the sleeve and get on the same page. Best wishes to you!

At work there is 3 other women in my building who had the bypass and they are perfectly healthy no problems. I was Sleeved in July of this year and feel wonderful no worries.

Yeah and a year ago my wonderful beautiful sister in law dropped dead of a sudden heart attack due to decades of packing around an extra 150# - but where is the fun in sharing THAT horror storty?