So my husband is being very unsupportive all of sudden....and tomorrow is my surgery. Last night he suggested we all go out to dinner at American Steak house. Then he told me that we will be driving to North Carolina on Saturday to pick up his twins. I am still going to be recovering. Then he told me that because I will be home for the next few weeks he will be leaving my toddler home to save on daycare. I'm already stressed because I know he thinks that this is a minor surgery and he is going to be looking for me to cook, clean, and take care of all that I normally do. I just pray that he realizes that I need his support in this time.

WOW, how far will you be going? It seems a little rushed... but please do take care of yourself!! Remember that you shouldn't be lifting anything right after surgery.

Maybe you should sit down with him tonight and go over the surgery and postop recovery times. This is NOT going to be a quick procedure or recovery!

I will say a prayer for your surgery and recovery to be good (and hopefully quick since he's being this way)

Everyone is different so it's impossible to accurately predict exactly how you're going to be feeling at any point in time. So a gentle reminder to your husband that the Saturday road trip sounds great but you will probably be two days out of the hospital following major surgery and you may not be up to it would be appropriate. A gentle reminder that taking care of the little person sounds great but there will be strict lifting restrictions for several weeks and possibly months following the surgery. Failure to observe those restrictions could land you back in the hospital and possibly require additional surgery. So a reminder that you may not be up to it for a period of time would be appropriate. Hopefully he will be understanding. If not, you may have to go back to basics - just say no.

I agree with DL. You need to talk to him. Communication is so vital right now for you. Be open and honest with him. I found that getting my hubby out of the house was best for these kind of talks. If we try to talk at home he stares at the tv hoping it will suddenly come on and save him.

The key is to be honest and open about your feelings, fears and thoughts.

I agree with DL. You need to talk to him. Communication is so vital right now for you. Be open and honest with him. I found that getting my hubby out of the house was best for these kind of talks. If we try to talk at home he stares at the tv hoping it will suddenly come on and save him.

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I love this! I have to get my hubby out of the house for talks for the same reason. Maybe they think there's a remote in their heads?

Maybe he is scared and handling that badly.

I think I'd slap my hubby hard before trying to communicate this is not advice though

I think I'd slap my hubby hard before trying to communicate this is not advice though

Some days I would take this as advice!! I wonder if it works?? (Not that I would try it... )