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Honestly..other people that haven't gone thru this don't know. I get my biggest support here.

I'm finding that to be true for myself as well. My family eats everytime we get together. It is hard to be around all the foods you love and not eat. So I have been just sticking to myself while I loose the 34 pounds before surgery. I have found it easier to loose the weight that way.

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I'm finding that to be true for myself as well. My family eats everytime we get together. It is hard to be around all the foods you love and not eat. So I have been just sticking to myself while I loose the 34 pounds before surgery. I have found it easier to loose the weight that way.

I come from a huge southern family..we always are eating. My coworkers..we were always eating too to socialize. Sometimes it took me eating my

Little bit of Protein in my car til I was heading down the path of eating better within my diet. My friends and family may pretty much all have good intentions but they don't know. Another thing I noticed is the sheer amount of food they put away..I was like that and worse. It changes your perspective. Surgery doesn't help he head hunger or the emotions you are forced to deal with when u can't self soothe by eating. It's a journey but its worth it to me.

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I come from a huge southern family..we always are eating. My coworkers..we were always eating too to socialize. Sometimes it took me eating my

Little bit of Protein in my car til I was heading down the path of eating better within my diet. My friends and family may pretty much all have good intentions but they don't know. Another thing I noticed is the sheer amount of food they put away..I was like that and worse. It changes your perspective. Surgery doesn't help he head hunger or the emotions you are forced to deal with when u can't self soothe by eating. It's a journey but its worth it to me.

I feel that this journey is going to be worth it. I can't live for everyone else or food at that. It's been controlling my life for years. It's time for a fresh start for myself and my daughter!!

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Glad you found us- i started online here a few weeks ago, really helped me. I went to a bariatric support group first time saturday but this is better for me for now.

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Glad you found us- i started online here a few weeks ago' date=' really helped me. I went to a bariatric support group first time saturday but this is better for me for now.[/quote']

I went to my first meeting last week and that is where I learned about this group. I'm glad I found it. I have found it to be very helpful. Going through and reading everyones struggles and how they cope is helping me alot with my journey.

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I'm divorced. I have been a Foster parent for about 6 years now. I don't want to adopt more children. One is plenty for me. Lol unless I get married again and I'm not a single parent. Then I would consider it. It's hard taking care of a 1 year old at my weight. Maybe when I loose the weight and have more energy I'd also consider it.

Congrats and welcome! Just wanted to say your doing an amazing job! The world needs more foster parents. I use to be that "foster" child and I remember how much of a pain I was. Lived in the system since I was 12 till I turned 21 and maxed out and thrown basically to the streets with absolutely no tools as to how to survive out there! I learned on my own and learned very fast!! I always wanted to do the same, except not babies, I wanted to be a foster mother to troubled teen girls! I remember how lost I was growing up in the system and being bounced around from home to home every time I turned around. I now have a 11 old daughter with Autism, so my plans have been put on hold and who knows if I will make it to that dream or not. time will tell, but at least I will be healthier of I do decide to. My wife and I are having our surgery together on August 19th.

good luck on your journey!

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Congrats and welcome! Just wanted to say your doing an amazing job! The world needs more foster parents. I use to be that "foster" child and I remember how much of a pain I was. Lived in the system since I was 12 till I turned 21 and maxed out and thrown basically to the streets with absolutely no tools as to how to survive out there! I learned on my own and learned very fast!! I always wanted to do the same' date=' except not babies, I wanted to be a foster mother to troubled teen girls! I remember how lost I was growing up in the system and being bounced around from home to home every time I turned around. I now have a 11 old daughter with Autism, so my plans have been put on hold and who knows if I will make it to that dream or not. time will tell, but at least I will be healthier of I do decide to. My wife and I are having our surgery together on August 19th.

good luck on your journey![/quote']

I'm not going to lie it's a struggle being a foster parent. I had my last kids for 4 years. The 4 year old I got from the hospital. She was 2 days old. It was hard to see them go home but I knew their mom fought hard for them. They left in April and they are now back into care. They got taken Friday. So now I have the 2 girls again on top of my 1 year old. I'm struggling with tryn to still eat healthy while being stressed out. I had a slip on Sunday but I got right back on track Monday. I'm going to go weigh in today to see how much I have lost. Fingers crossed I've lost overt 10 pounds now.

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Congrats and welcome! Just wanted to say your doing an amazing job! The world needs more foster parents. I use to be that "foster" child and I remember how much of a pain I was. Lived in the system since I was 12 till I turned 21 and maxed out and thrown basically to the streets with absolutely no tools as to how to survive out there! I learned on my own and learned very fast!! I always wanted to do the same' date=' except not babies, I wanted to be a foster mother to troubled teen girls! I remember how lost I was growing up in the system and being bounced around from home to home every time I turned around. I now have a 11 old daughter with Autism, so my plans have been put on hold and who knows if I will make it to that dream or not. time will tell, but at least I will be healthier of I do decide to. My wife and I are having our surgery together on August 19th.

good luck on your journey![/quote']

I'm not going to lie it's a struggle being a foster parent. I had my last kids for 4 years. The 4 year old I got from the hospital. She was 2 days old. It was hard to see them go home but I knew their mom fought hard for them. They left in April and they are now back into care. They got taken Friday. So now I have the 2 girls again on top of my 1 year old. I'm struggling with tryn to still eat healthy while being stressed out. I had a slip on Sunday but I got right back on track Monday. I'm going to go weigh in today to see how much I have lost. Fingers crossed I've lost overt 10 pounds now.

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Thank you!! I went to a support meeting and they are the ones who told me about this group. I'm glad I have people who understands what I am going through. Because noone around me does. It's kind of like going to war by myself.

Exactly how I feel. Have you had your surgery or do you have a surgery date?? My first appointment was also in July of this year.

(Pre op) Journey Starting Weight: 341, Current Weight: 319, Goal weight: 140 <--- After GB

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No I don't have a date yet. My first appointment was July 5th. I have to loose the 34 pounds before I can get my second appointment. I'm down about 30 so far. I'm working on the last few pounds but its been hard! Do you have a second appointment yet? Do you have to loose any weight before your second appointment?

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No I don't have a date yet. My first appointment was July 5th. I have to loose the 34 pounds before I can get my second appointment. I'm down about 30 so far. I'm working on the last few pounds but its been hard! Do you have a second appointment yet? Do you have to loose any weight before your second appointment?

My first appt was July 3rd. My 3rd appt. Is September 3rd and my 2nd class is the same day. I had to lose 17 pounds and I lost 22. I have to quit smoking so I was required to lose half of 10% of my starting weight. They won't submit to insurance until December so Im hoping its approved and I can get it done in December as well. Maybe not realistic but I'm hoping. Fingers crossed!!

(Pre op) Journey Starting Weight: 341, Current Weight: 319, Goal weight: 140 (After GB) Hoping for December surgery date!!!

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My first appt was July 3rd. My 3rd appt. Is September 3rd and my 2nd class is the same day. I had to lose 17 pounds and I lost 22. I have to quit smoking so I was required to lose half of 10% of my starting weight. They won't submit to insurance until December so Im hoping its approved and I can get it done in December as well. Maybe not realistic but I'm hoping. Fingers crossed!!

(Pre op) Journey Starting Weight: 341' date=' Current Weight: 319, Goal weight: 140 (After GB) Hoping for December surgery date!!![/quote']

I'm so glad I'm not a smoker! I wouldn't be able not to eat and smoke at the same time. I would go crazy. I had to attend a group meeting and see the NUT. I've done all that so now it's just the weight I have to loose. I was at a plateau for two weeks and I got a little discouraged. So I cheated all last week. But I'm back up now and hopefully I can get the last five pounds off by Monday or Tuesday. Fingers crossed you can get approved quick and get your date!!

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I'm new to this site as well. Just now joined but had my surgery almost 5 yrs ago. Awesome job on your weight loss though. :)

I know it is tough but stay strong you can do it! Soooo worth it!!

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I'm so glad I'm not a smoker! I wouldn't be able not to eat and smoke at the same time. I would go crazy. I had to attend a group meeting and see the NUT. I've done all that so now it's just the weight I have to loose. I was at a plateau for two weeks and I got a little discouraged. So I cheated all last week. But I'm back up now and hopefully I can get the last five pounds off by Monday or Tuesday. Fingers crossed you can get approved quick and get your date!!

I feel so crappy when I cheat. I beat myself up mentally so my cheats have only lasted 1 day at time. I'm scared that will change once I quit smoking this weekend. Glad you are back up now. I'm rooting for you you to get those last 5 pounds off!!! You can do it girl!!!

(Pre op) Journey Starting Weight: 341, Current Weight: 319, Goal weight: 140 (After GB) Hoping for December surgery date!!!

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