Have any of you run in to the rare "I think you are perfect the way you are physically" guy?

Did you feel a little suspicious of him?

Would he encourage you to gain weight?

Thoughts?

I married him when I was over 300.

He is so healing for me after my childhood with ultracritical parents.

These kind of men are out there. But they're not at bars or clubs or construction sites. They're men just going about their business dealing with issues of their own and they realize perfection is fleeting and not all that interesting.

He never commented either way on my weight. Didn't tell me to lose or try to get me to gain.

But they're not at bars or clubs or construction sites. They're men just going about their business dealing with issues of their own and they realize perfection is fleeting and not all that interesting.

VERY well said!

I knew my husband in HS--where I was skinny. Dated him in my 20's when I was skinny. Fell in love with him---when I was skinny. Now I don't say skinny as opposed to what I am, I am 5'9" and weighed 116 pounds...I was skinny! We went our separate ways, he left to continue his schooling, I remained here. We each married and divorced...and I put on 170 pounds. He contacted me years later, and I cautiously over the phone told him I was not the skinny, naive girl I used to be--he said he didn't care. He come to see me, we dated long disatance for 2 years, married and never looked back. When we married he gained about 60 pounds. We did Atkins, we both lost really well, his stayed off, mine didn't! Through the years he has never once said anything negative about my weight. When I broached the subject of banding, he was a bit concerned, but we knew a couple who had had it done, and he saw that they were ok, so he said if I wanted to do it go for it! I did! About 6 months after I was banded and had lost about 50-60 pounds, my DH began having heart problems. He told me one night, now that he had a bad heart I should go find me a healthier guy! I laughed, and said "you put up with me fat all these years and you think a little heart problem is going to scare me off?" He responded with "I never saw you as fat". He looks at a family picture we have on the wall in the den when I was at my biggest, and he freaks out, he says he cannot believe that is me, he never "saw" me that heavy.

Everyday as he hugs me, or I walk by he has complimentary things to say. He had heart surgery a few months ago---and between his healthy heart, and my weight loss---we are giving his ticker a real workout!!!

They are out there, people who see the inside you---and they are so worth waiting for!!! In my DH's case, his Mom and sisters are all overweight, ranging from a few pounds overweight to one as heavy as I was (we were banded together!). I think he never associated fat as being bad---the women he loved were heavy, and they were good women. His exwife on the other hand was about 105 pounds soaking wet---little petite thing----and every ounce of it bi#*h!!!

If you find one who loves you for you---hang on to him!!!

Good Luck!

Kat