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I have been off for awhile and miss everyone. The cheating husband is killing me. I feel fantastic. Im not working so I am home a lot. Alone. Sighs. On the bright side I am down 68#. Miss you all.

So sorry you are having to deal with that hope you get to a better place real soon ..prayers for you {{{hugs}}}

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Just drove to chicago to pick mom in law up from train station. 3 and 1/2 hrs with I sure it a stress fractured right foot! It hurts soooo bad but had no options- had to be the driver! Probably have to hit up urgent care after the 3 and 1/2 hr drive home! Gonna be a LONGGGGGGG day!

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Just drove to chicago to pick mom in law up from train station. 3 and 1/2 hrs with I sure it a stress fractured right foot! It hurts soooo bad but had no options- had to be the driver! Probably have to hit up urgent care after the 3 and 1/2 hr drive home! Gonna be a LONGGGGGGG day!

Get that checked out now!!

HW 358 SW 344 CW 268 RNY 4/11/2013

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Just drove to chicago to pick mom in law up from train station. 3 and 1/2 hrs with I sure it a stress fractured right foot! It hurts soooo bad but had no options- had to be the driver! Probably have to hit up urgent care after the 3 and 1/2 hr drive home! Gonna be a LONGGGGGGG day!

Hows your foot dori

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Hows your foot dori

Am home now with it up and iced. Very swollen. Will go to urgent care tomorrow!

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Having a really hard time. I truly was hurt by my Inlaws. They basically teamed up on me arguing about my southern grammar and how certain things I say make me sound ignorant and why did I continue to

Say things and raise my child like the pattern to use southern words and even if I knew it was wrong. Why didnt I want my child to speak better. I will never go to their house again. I am basically done with them and wanna take my little ignorant southern ass home. I have spent the last hour crying my eyes out. My husband admits it was awful of them. I just wanna go gorge myself in cake or ice cream or something. This truly has been the worst I've felt since surgery and I have no outlet. I'm stuck crying my eyes out alone. I'm so hurt I can barely stand it. Nothing much I can do but I feel like I could eat to the point of making myself sick. I hate this. I hate feeling this way.

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Having a really hard time. I truly was hurt by my Inlaws. They basically teamed up on me arguing about my southern grammar and how certain things I say make me sound ignorant and why did I continue to

Say things and raise my child like the pattern to use southern words and even if I knew it was wrong. Why didnt I want my child to speak better. I will never go to their house again. I am basically done with them and wanna take my little ignorant southern ass home. I have spent the last hour crying my eyes out. My husband admits it was awful of them. I just wanna go gorge myself in cake or ice cream or something. This truly has been the worst I've felt since surgery and I have no outlet. I'm stuck crying my eyes out alone. I'm so hurt I can barely stand it. Nothing much I can do but I feel like I could eat to the point of making myself sick. I hate this. I hate feeling this way.

So sorry u are going through this ..inlaws can be rotten I've def been through my share of shit with my M.I.L. and know it is a rough place to be especially when you are at their house and not able to just leave and go home ...maybr try taking a walk anf getting fresh air

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Having a really hard time. I truly was hurt by my Inlaws. They basically teamed up on me arguing about my southern grammar and how certain things I say make me sound ignorant and why did I continue to

Say things and raise my child like the pattern to use southern words and even if I knew it was wrong. Why didnt I want my child to speak better. I will never go to their house again. I am basically done with them and wanna take my little ignorant southern ass home. I have spent the last hour crying my eyes out. My husband admits it was awful of them. I just wanna go gorge myself in cake or ice cream or something. This truly has been the worst I've felt since surgery and I have no outlet. I'm stuck crying my eyes out alone. I'm so hurt I can barely stand it. Nothing much I can do but I feel like I could eat to the point of making myself sick. I hate this. I hate feeling this way.

Ajustice,

When we are successful there will be those who become hateful. Don't let them get to you. Your are doing great! Von up and don't let Satan steal your joy.

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Having a really hard time. I truly was hurt by my Inlaws. They basically teamed up on me arguing about my southern grammar and how certain things I say make me sound ignorant and why did I continue to

Say things and raise my child like the pattern to use southern words and even if I knew it was wrong. Why didnt I want my child to speak better. I will never go to their house again. I am basically done with them and wanna take my little ignorant southern ass home. I have spent the last hour crying my eyes out. My husband admits it was awful of them. I just wanna go gorge myself in cake or ice cream or something. This truly has been the worst I've felt since surgery and I have no outlet. I'm stuck crying my eyes out alone. I'm so hurt I can barely stand it. Nothing much I can do but I feel like I could eat to the point of making myself sick. I hate this. I hate feeling this way.

Im so sorry! That is just a horrible way to treat someone, especially someone in the family! I wonder if they know how ignorant it makes them to judge someone else for the way they talk? I will NEVER understand how people can treat others that way. I could never in my life do that and intentionally hurt someone! I hope your husband continues to stand by you and lets his parents know how wrong they were! Time to go home and leave them to themselves. You do have an outlet and that is by venting here to people who wont ever judge you! You are a better person than they are as you are nothing but kind to us. Dont let their judgement bring you down my friend. You deserve much better! Hugs to you from way across the USA!♥

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I feel so helpless and hurt. I told him he didn't stand up for me but he was the one who finally told them that's enough. He came back here 3x apologizing and saying I have to forgive cause they are family. They are HIS family not mine. Mine would never mistreat someone..ESP about their culture and while they were guest in their home. I have no outlet but to cry. Feel like I can't forgive them right now..after all I'm ignorant and how can I understand things like that? Idk. I was looking for hotels but nothing close by and that upset my hubby. I just wanna leave. I'm so hurt I have a massive headache from crying. I just don't understand. How does the way I speak truly matter to them enough to cause such a issue? I can't blame this on pms. I'm truly an emotional wreck. I've never mistreated anyone like that.

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Did they apologize? Or seem remorseful at all? I feel so bad for you especially being stuck there.

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No. He said they feel awful and have told him that but I won't go near them. Fortunately a large house to where I can totally separate myself from them.

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No. He said they feel awful and have told him that but I won't go near them. Fortunately a large house to where I can totally separate myself from them.

Stand your ground and let them know they were wrong! How much longer are you there for?

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Stand your ground and let them know they were wrong! How much longer are you there for?

Til in the morn. I hope I never have to darken the door here again

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Til in the morn. I hope I never have to darken the door here again

I'll be thinking of you! Keep me posted of what happens. Dont let them bring you down; you are way to awesome for that!

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      On day 4 of the 2 week liquid pre-op diet. Surgery scheduled for June 11th.
      Soooo I am coming to a realization
      of something and I'm not sure what to do about it. For years the only thing I've enjoyed is eating. We rarely do anything or go anywhere and if we do it always includes food. Family comes over? Big family dinner! Go camping? Food! Take a short ride or trip? Food! Holiday? Food! Go out of town for a Dr appointment? Food! When we go to a new town we don't look for any attractions, we look for restaurants we haven't been to. Heck, I look forward to getting off work because that means it's almost supper time. Now that I'm drinking these pre-op shakes for breakfast, lunch, and supper I have nothing to look forward to.  And once I have surgery on June 11th it'll be more of the same shakes. Even after pureed stage, soft food stage, and finally regular food stage, it's going to be a drastic change for the rest of my life. I'm giving up the one thing that really brings me joy. Eating. How do you cope with that? What do you do to fill that void? Wow. Now I'm sad.
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