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Thats the reason i didn't tell anyone because i cannot deal with negativity.....everyone also told me i wasn't big enough' date=' suddenly people keep saying how much better i look.... You cannot please everyone...[/quote']

You can't please everyone so please yourself. I'm learning that. I've noticed alot from people changing towards me once get surgery people not going to say.

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"You are not that big"..... I know people are trying to be kind but it almost makes it worse. I was 298 and only 5'5. I am surprised my desk phone was not orbiting me. Please do not humor me since you were the same person that said things like "she has such a pretty face but....." or "it is a shame she has so much potential".

I must be having a hormonal mood swing right now. LOL Don't mean to be crabby this just bugs me.

Orbiting. ..lol...you crack me up... :)

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I've heard the same thing a few times now! Especially from the close family members that I have told, it pisses me off oh n I hate the pretty/ beautiful face comments;/

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Exactly right libra_lisa. I have forbidden the few that know to tell anyone else' date=' whether it's at church or Fam because gossipers and judging people come in all packages. No one ever guesses my weight correctly because I am muscular genetically and the fat is under and on top. It took awhile for my husband to be ok with it. He said that he doesn't want me to lose the booooty and boooobies...:-/ , it took another health scare/hospitalization...... So it will be on feb 26th.

I am anxious enough I don't need or want comments from non-supporters...... I would like to retain my christianity and not go back to the n.y./ before I found Christ .....:-0[/quote']

lolololol I've done the same thing, I told the people who know to please keep it to themselves because I don't need anymore negative Nancy's giving their two cents! My bf said the exact same thing....please don't lose my butt or boobs lol and Congratulations on your surgery...Im only 2 1/2 weeks out but I can you tell this....in the beginning you may question why you did this to yourself and even regret your decision BUT take it from me...it does get better with each day, I promise you....I've lost 23 pounds so far and I'm still in shock...it also amazes me how small of a portion I'm eating and to me that's the best part! Your going to do great and if you need anyone to talk to I'm here!!

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lolololol I've done the same thing' date=' I told the people who know to please keep it to themselves because I don't need anymore negative Nancy's giving their two cents! My bf said the exact same thing....please don't loose my butt or boobs lol and Congratulations on your surgery...Im only 2 1/2 weeks out but I can you tell this....in the beginning you may question why you did this to yourself and even regret your decision BUT take it from me...it does get better with each day, I promise you....I've lost 23 pounds so far and I'm still in shock...it also amazes me how small of a portion I'm eating and to me that's the best part! Your going to do great and if you need anyone to talk to I'm here!![/quote']

Thank you! Libras (me too) rock! Lol! I am. Tired as hell and sounding corny as hell. Time to take my booty (which I hope to save for the hubby's sake) to bed. Nite! God bless!

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When I got my last test done, the endoscopy, the doctor performing was a charmer. Sweet, but no cigar. He says, you are having WLS? Hello, look at my chart I am 5 ft 2' and weigh 258 lbs...so I'm proportion different. Still gives me a BMI of 46...really, like we want to do this for nothing? It's to become a healthier you! I just ignore some & love the people who are supportive. :)

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When I got my last test done' date=' the endoscopy, the doctor performing was a charmer. Sweet, but no cigar. He says, you are having WLS? Hello, look at my chart I am 5 ft 2' and weigh 258 lbs...so I'm proportion different. Still gives me a BMI of 46...really, like we want to do this for nothing? It's to become a healthier you! I just ignore some & love the people who are supportive. :)[/quote']

People say the same to me. Like my co workers said oh your figure is nice. I said that's because I can nip and tuck but once I I tuck my stomach look like a flat tire to a tractor trailer they laugh but I be forreal! Like all we want is support!

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People say the same to me. Like my co workers said oh your figure is nice. I said that's because I can nip and tuck but once I I tuck my stomach look like a flat tire to a tractor trailer they laugh but I be forreal! Like all we want is support!

Exactly.... Like Grandma said if you have nothing nice to say, don't say nothing at all damn it. (Last part mine of course)

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Just told my mom and sister. Only my dad and husband and oldest daughter knew up till today.

Why does family have to suck so bad? Mom says well you should have told me (I'm what is it I'm doing right now??) then says you don't need that Wendee (um yes mom I do, my BMI is over 40 and I don't want to develop illnesses due to my weight). Well how much do you weigh? (222 mom, highest ice ever been -I'm 5'2") oh WENDEE (yes majorly disappointment in her tone). Well great you will lose it all super fast then and ill be the fat one. (Really mom?!?!)

Told my sister right after- this is our convo

So self centered I could scream!

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Just told my mom and sister. Only my dad and husband and oldest daughter knew up till today.

Why does family have to suck so bad? Mom says well you should have told me (I'm what is it I'm doing right now??) then says you don't need that Wendee (um yes mom I do' date=' my BMI is over 40 and I don't want to develop illnesses due to my weight). Well how much do you weigh? (222 mom, highest ice ever been -I'm 5'2") oh WENDEE (yes majorly disappointment in her tone). Well great you will lose it all super fast then and ill be the fat one. (Really mom?!?!)

Told my sister right after- this is our convo

So self centered I could scream![/quote']

Who cares what they think....they obviously won't be happy either way. You do realize they will complain that ur too skinny at some point in time lol

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Yea mom has already said how I will lose it so fast and she will be the fat one, then tells me to not get as skinny as I did 4 years ago because she just cried at how anorexic I looked (I weighed 136- wore a size 4 and was far from anorexic!) gah

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Wow....she sounds like a hot mess....lol I know my step mom is gonna Be the same way. She was a beauty pageant contestant in the 60's so u can imagine....blah blah blah shut up lady.

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