If One More Person!

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I have heard all of this as well. I was 212 when I went for my consult. So I heard and still hear that this was not necessary' date=' and if I had just set my mind to it and worked hard I wouldn't have had to take the "easy way out" I have stopped trying to defend my decision. I just tell people it's not their business.[/quote']

I was 211

[TinyMamiOf3kids 1,280]

I got "Have you ever thought about a diet?". No I've only been trying to diet since I was 10!

Wow! The nerves of ppl

[worm2872 635]

"You are not that big"..... I know people are trying to be kind but it almost makes it worse. I was 298 and only 5'5. I am surprised my desk phone was not orbiting me. Please do not humor me since you were the same person that said things like "she has such a pretty face but....." or "it is a shame she has so much potential".

I must be having a hormonal mood swing right now. LOL Don't mean to be crabby this just bugs me.

[kss31 103]

I make no attempt to be private about my surgery since I live in a small town and I ran into someone's mom yesterday that I hadn't seen since the surgery. She asked me how much weight I d lost and what my goal was. I ve lost 70 and my goal is 70 more so I will be 5'8" and weigh about 155. She really said to me oh that's too much you will look way too skinny at 155. What I wanted to say I won't repeat here but I replied with a well that is what my doctor and I have decided is my goal based on the medical benefits not on vanity. Ahh! Do they think they are complimenting me by saying I look good fatter or what?! Hate that!

[Shethinksthin 36]

Tells me that I didn't need the surgery!!!! I understand where they are coming from but it's getting on my nerves....do they honestly think that I would put myself through ALL of this just because?! What really grind my gears is when they don't even educate themselves on the surgery and just assume crap!

I feel the exact same way. Noone being positive everyone is saying I don't need don't need like noone care to think why we getting the surgery. We not doing this for fun. It's health related issues! If people educated themselves they'll understand why! And then maybe they'll be supportive

[libra_lisa 136]

I feel the exact same way. Noone being positive everyone is saying I don't need don't need like noone care to think why we getting the surgery. We not doing this for fun. It's health related issues! If people educated themselves they'll understand why! And then maybe they'll be supportive

exactly!! now that I've had the surgery every joke is about what I'm eating and how little I'm eating...

[Shethinksthin 36]

exactly!! now that I've had the surgery every joke is about what I'm eating and how little I'm eating...

They won't understand till they in our shoes! Proud of you and everyone else!

[libra_lisa 136]

They won't understand till they in our shoes! Proud of you and everyone else!

thank you!!!!

[libra_lisa 136]

They won't understand till they in our shoes! Proud of you and everyone else!

thank you!! )

[btb2013 84]

Exactly right libra_lisa. I have forbidden the few that know to tell anyone else, whether it's at church or Fam because gossipers and judging people come in all packages. No one ever guesses my weight correctly because I am muscular genetically and the fat is under and on top. It took awhile for my husband to be ok with it. He said that he doesn't want me to lose the booooty and boooobies...:-/ , it took another health scare/hospitalization...... So it will be on feb 26th.

I am anxious enough I don't need or want comments from non-supporters...... I would like to retain my christianity and not go back to the n.y./ before I found Christ .....:-0

[AliG 17]

Hey BTB2013 we have the same surgery date! Cool

The only person who has tried to question me was my daughter-in law's

Mother. My daughter-in law had bypass surgery three years ago before I met her. She lost 150 lbs also had plastic surgery after for skin. She was telling me how it was the best thing she ever did and how I am going to feel so much better. The. Her mother came up to me and said, your not really going to put yourself through all that pain and suffering are you? She went on to tell me how horrible it has been watching her daughter getting sick from dumping and how she doesn't understand why she would do that to herself. Well I thought to myself you are saying this right in front of your daughter who has done so well and is so happy. Then I sat back and looked at her mother and realized, it was right in front of me, I know why she had gotten so heavy. Mom is beautiful perfect figure and she more then likely part of the reason my daughter-in law had a weight problem. She had zero respect for her own daughter's feelings. Her daughter was the "ugly" duckling out of the family of four kids. Her sister is gorgeous and trim like her mom and they all call her princess and comment on how beautiful she is. Which she is both inside and out. I felt so bad for my daughter-in law having to play that roll a her life and even though she is now trim and a knock out they still are not acknowledging it.

[snow25 188]

Even pre op at the hospital I had a nurse say, " you're not big enough to need this." Not the pep talk I needed going into surgery. Being obese limits everything we do. I am so glad I had the surgery. I'm 5 weeks out, down 43 pounds, and feeling great. I'm exercising a lot and doing things I haven't been able to do in awhile.

[jls2012 41]

The day after surgery in the hospital- I went to xray for my swallow test before I could drink and the tech in there said"I can't believe your doctor would do surgery on you- you are not big enough" I thought to myself..hmmm... If I wasn't 'big enough' then my insurance wouldn't have paid for this. The process to get approved and all of the red tape and hoops to jump thru for this and then to have a medical person question it is really really irritating!! I am a nurse and I know that at 233# at 5' 3" I was not healthy and then I am judged and ridiculed because I chose to be proactive and do something about my weight problems! I am proud of me and everyone who has made this choice!!

[Shethinksthin 36]

The day after surgery in the hospital- I went to xray for my swallow test before I could drink and the tech in there said"I can't believe your doctor would do surgery on you- you are not big enough" I thought to myself..hmmm... If I wasn't 'big enough' then my insurance wouldn't have paid for this. The process to get approved and all of the red tape and hoops to jump thru for this and then to have a medical person question it is really really irritating!! I am a nurse and I know that at 233# at 5' 3" I was not healthy and then I am judged and ridiculed because I chose to be proactive and do something about my weight problems! I am proud of me and everyone who has made this choice!!

That's not right it's noone business why you got it. Cause if you didn't get it people would judge you because you overweight. I think it's mostly a jealousy thing! Honestly.

[mizzlaw 130]

Thats the reason i didn't tell anyone because i cannot deal with negativity.....everyone also told me i wasn't big enough, suddenly people keep saying how much better i look.... You cannot please everyone...